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  • BCsven@lemmy.catoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What’s your love language?
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    7 days ago

    Gaslighting women LOL. It is not gender biased–meaning trying tobsway women to be subservient and men dominant… Its irrelevant who set it up, that’s a fallicious arugment. But since you brought it up it does have basis on the hierarchy of human needs from psychology papers.

    Categorization involves finding the limits that determine a category, you could probably break it into a 100 or more, but then you add complexity for no reason, these are distilled to the most base set.

    If you don’t want to like it because of a pastor you can get a similar scooe with Ortan-Gilingham method since it was backed by science research not just anecdotes from those tested.

    I disagree it all boils to acts of service. For example I score high on Physical touch, but it doesn’t require an act of service like a back massage, just lying next to my wife with our skin touching is enough to keep my tank full. She could be asleep so there is 0 act of service. It a basic human skin to skin thing like when they say babies (and chimp studies) should have skin to skin contact with mom.

    But buy me a gift or do something for me has no tank filling properties. Its nice but, meh



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    8 days ago

    It does work though. Partners often give based on what they need…because humans assume everyone is just like them. But funding your partners actual need makes a difference.

    Example, my wife likes acts of service and gifts, so she would previously assume I’d want those things. But I score a zero on gifts and acts of service, because I have what I need and I can do stuff for myself with no loss of feeling from my partner