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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • I think you are being way too hard on yourself. You know what dogs want more than anything else? Love. You loved her and that was the best thing you could have possibly done for her. Sure, I made mistakes with Lucy too, but she was loved and her life was a lot better than any feral dog’s would have been. She was also a rescue in a shelter that euthanized animals if they did not eventually get adopted. I saved her life. You could save a dog’s life and all it would want in return was love from you.

    I think you should get another dog and I don’t think she suffered like you think she did.





  • I have owned just one dog. In the sense that it’s less work and less expense, it is better, but I find two dogs so much more rewarding. I wouldn’t say they play together though… Ghost is a mean old thing who hates everyone, but she will allow Charlie in her presence (most of the time) and does seem to feel more comfortable when he’s around. Charlie absolutely adores Ghost and allows her to attack him whenever she gets in the mood to because he loves her so much. It’s a very odd relationship. To make it weirder, Ghost loves to play but Charlie mostly just likes to cuddle. Since no two dogs (at least no two I’ve ever met) are alike, you get a mix of personalities, which is lots of fun.

    But the most valuable part of owning two dogs is both selfish and helpful- When Lucy (the first dog) started getting old, I got the advice that we should get our next dog before she died, and that way we would at least have a dog to come home to rather than an empty house. It doesn’t mean you aren’t still devastated when it happens, but it really does help in terms of having the support you would have otherwise (or also) gotten from the dog who is now gone. We got Max only a year before Lucy died, which was too close. We didn’t wait that long the next time when we got Ghost.

    As far as the bond lessening, definitely not. It does help that I’m Charlie’s favorite and my wife is Ghost’s favorite this time, but my wife was also Max’s favorite and stayed that way until he was gone. I will never get over losing Lucy or Max, but having Max to come home to when Lucy was gone (and in the case of Lucy, my wife and infant daughter were out of town and it couldn’t wait so I really was on my own) and having Ghost to come home to when Max was gone, was such a comfort.

    Now my mother, her housemate and how her housemate’s daughter all live together and they have four dogs. They’re four small dogs, but that’s still way too many dogs.


  • Unless they’re done in order to sacrifice captives to the gods like they did in pre-Colombian Mesoamerica. That was because they legitimately thought they had to do it to keep the universe working. That’s also why their wars were usually about attacking to wound rather than attacking to kill. Just as many people died, but they died in sacrifice rather than on the battlefield.

    Oddly enough, the interpretation of the glyph the Mayans had for a war as we would think of it- one of conquest- is “star war.” Blame Dr. Linda Schele for that one.






  • I was totally ignorant to the world of fiber crafts the first- and last- time my wife found me cutting up something with her sewing scissors.

    Of course, that was before she became addicted to every fiber craft under the sun. Now I live in a house with several spinning wheels and a tapestry loom. This could be you too if you start crocheting. Take heed.

    (I’m actually fine with it because she’s making me an Ernie sweater. I saw an Ernie costume on Halloween and I suddenly realized how much I wanted an Ernie sweater. So I asked and she immediately said okay. Yay!)