cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/30817458

It is becoming increasingly clear to me that I need to expand my social circle. Most people I’m in a position to see in real life regularly are filled with a lot of brainworms: owning property is seen as a goal that one would be crazy not to pursue, the police and military are seen as sacred institutions, and I even know a few trumpanzees. I need to make new connections, but I’m a weird suburbanite shut-in with a weird demeanor that is offputting to normal people, and I’m worried that trying to meet new friends through my existing friends will just further entrench me into the petite bourgeois crackershpere.

How do you meet based people when you’re just far enough from the nearest city for regular travel back and forth to be inconvenient and are bad at making friends in the first place?

  • tocopherol [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    10 days ago

    Is there any kind of art/music scene where you’re at? I’ve found those sorts of circles to contain a much higher rate of based people, and they are also typically more accepting of us with weird demeanors. It can be hard to find though especially if you’re in a smaller suburb. Maybe there’s a pub/cafe that does events that has based people? Like there’s a vegan pub here that has Palestine flags n such and the people there are usually cool and social, if that’s your thing.

    Not sure what it’s like where you are but I’m lucky to be in an area now where people are social, other places they seemed more introverted overall and as someone that never really reaches out socially it was a lot tougher to make friends.

    • Sleepless One@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
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      10 days ago

      Is there any kind of art/music scene where you’re at? I’ve found those sorts of circles to contain a much higher rate of based people, and they are also typically more accepting of us with weird demeanors. It can be hard to find though especially if you’re in a smaller suburb. Maybe there’s a pub/cafe that does events that has based people?

      There’s bound to be something like that near me I can find.