now, i don’t know if it’s such a big deal, i’m (a trans man) just getting it “off my chest” (that’s why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he’s been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he’s happy, he barely has any time for me because he’s playing video games. he didn’t even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i’d let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he’s bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that’s how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" “you’re so handsome” but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it’s kind of about his mental health struggles.

    • otacon239@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 days ago

      A coping mechanism isn’t something that helps. Only cope. I obviously don’t know this person, but from my experience, people have to want to get better. If they’re convinced and fully convicted on the idea that nothing else will help, then they’re absolutely right.

      But the only way they will make progress (instead of just surviving) is to address their issue and tackle it head-on as frustrating, uncomfortable and uncharted as that territory may be.