now, i don’t know if it’s such a big deal, i’m (a trans man) just getting it “off my chest” (that’s why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he’s been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he’s happy, he barely has any time for me because he’s playing video games. he didn’t even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i’d let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he’s bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that’s how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" “you’re so handsome” but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it’s kind of about his mental health struggles.

  • garbagebagel@lemmy.world
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    9 hours ago

    I can’t offer much help that others haven’t said already with regards to your partner. tbh I’m in a very similar situation where my partner plays games/drinks to cope and I sometimes feel my needs are not met. I am working at acknowledging that and respectfully asking for what I need.

    However:

    please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.

    Please, please don’t blame yourself or think you’re a bad bf for asking for help. I don’t know how you are in the relationship but the fact that you’re worried and want to get help shows that you’re invested and care about your partner. There is nothing wrong with that and I’m sure (unless you’re abusive or something) that you are a totally awesome bf and your partner is just going through some shit. Do not take his shit personally. His choices are his alone and do not reflect on you as a person or as a boyfriend. I’m sure you are wonderful!