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I live near a large city so my options are quite open. I was able to find queer events within that city quite easily. Eventbrite.com has pages and pages of events available for me.
I went to a few that focused on meeting queer people. Halloween parties, board game nights, trivia. You may also find events under neurodiverse labels as well. There would definitely be some overlap with the queer community there too.
I chose a therapist that worked with queer people and people who have alternative lifestyles. She was the one who made that suggestion to me and that was probably the most helpful thing she had done for me.
Hopefully you have some luck, I imagine it would be difficult to find queer communities in less populates areas.
The city I’m living in is not that small, fortunately, so there probably are some options that I just don’t know of yet.
Was it hard for you to get into groups? My social anxiety kicks in just thinking about meeting new people, though that likely stems from past experiences with NT folk
I have pretty bad social anxiety but I also am able to let my adhd do the driving. I’ve travelled and live abroad in foreign places but to my friends and family back home I’m nearly non-verbal. All that to say I feel like I live a very hypocritical life.
I behave differently based on the situation. My first queer social meet up was a bit strange. It was 95% women and I felt completely out of place. I ended up just talking to a guy for most of the night and as I was leaving, ended up meeting a bunch of other people. One of them happened to be going to the same concert as me the following week. We exchanged numbers and now her and I are super close friends.
I generally arrive to these events with an open mind and a genuine smile and that’s enough for people to come talk to me. It can feel very intimidating at first but even getting out there at all is a huge step in the right direction. If you don’t meet people the first time, there will always be another event. Becoming a regular face also helps other people coming to introduce themselves to you.
I’m awful for going up and introducing myself to others so I look for ways to be more inviting for people to come talk to me. It’s not as direct but I’ve found some wonderful people that way. Whatever works is good enough for me :)
I live near a large city so my options are quite open. I was able to find queer events within that city quite easily. Eventbrite.com has pages and pages of events available for me.
I went to a few that focused on meeting queer people. Halloween parties, board game nights, trivia. You may also find events under neurodiverse labels as well. There would definitely be some overlap with the queer community there too.
I chose a therapist that worked with queer people and people who have alternative lifestyles. She was the one who made that suggestion to me and that was probably the most helpful thing she had done for me.
Hopefully you have some luck, I imagine it would be difficult to find queer communities in less populates areas.
The city I’m living in is not that small, fortunately, so there probably are some options that I just don’t know of yet.
Was it hard for you to get into groups? My social anxiety kicks in just thinking about meeting new people, though that likely stems from past experiences with NT folk
I have pretty bad social anxiety but I also am able to let my adhd do the driving. I’ve travelled and live abroad in foreign places but to my friends and family back home I’m nearly non-verbal. All that to say I feel like I live a very hypocritical life.
I behave differently based on the situation. My first queer social meet up was a bit strange. It was 95% women and I felt completely out of place. I ended up just talking to a guy for most of the night and as I was leaving, ended up meeting a bunch of other people. One of them happened to be going to the same concert as me the following week. We exchanged numbers and now her and I are super close friends.
I generally arrive to these events with an open mind and a genuine smile and that’s enough for people to come talk to me. It can feel very intimidating at first but even getting out there at all is a huge step in the right direction. If you don’t meet people the first time, there will always be another event. Becoming a regular face also helps other people coming to introduce themselves to you.
I’m awful for going up and introducing myself to others so I look for ways to be more inviting for people to come talk to me. It’s not as direct but I’ve found some wonderful people that way. Whatever works is good enough for me :)