cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/5550838
For example, this week I spent 6 hours helping a friend fix their roof & 0 fixing the leak in my roof. Most of the meals that I cooked were when I had company or going to a potluck. It takes me until the umpteenth ‘let me just squish it down’ and the flies start buzzing to take the trash out…
…It feels like if I were a stranger, I would take better care of myself than I do, if that makes sense?
In general, I feel like I am a very values- and care-driven person. Like what feels meaningful is taking care of my community and working towards the world I want to live in. I have a good reputation in my community & activist circles for consistent work and following through on what I commit to do…
…none of that seems to apply to myself! My dishes sit in the sink for days, and I usually only bathe in preparation for public events.
This will not do! How do I treat myself like I treat others? Ahhhh!
it’s easy to know what you can tolerate, it’s harder to tell yourself that you deserve nice things
it’s hard to judge what other people can tolerate, but easier to give them nice things you think they deserve