When I challenge something the other person said then they get upset and we start arguing. But then they change their position to agree with me. And claim to have held the same position as I do from the start.
So now I am the asshole for arguing when we agree on everything!!
Everybody has ADHD and I don’t think it’s on purpose. I just won the argument very thoroughly and this is what it looks like. I feel like I have to get a written record of what the other person is saying before I respond so they don’t accuse me of starting an argument over literally nothing.
(And I have 3rd party witness who confirms my view of the situation is not skewed.)
A possible way to interpret it since you said you both have ADHD, is that they got so invested in the argument that they literally don’t know what their original stance is. Then they just accept whatever “feels” correct in the moment and assume that is what they have been saying the whole time. I used to get frustrated by someone a lot because it felt like they where always complaining. Then I found out they have a degenerative condition and they are almost always in pain. This understanding changed my view on their behavior. It’s possible the person has a limitation where they can not keep track of things while be emotionally elevated. Anyway, that’s just a guess with very little data.
that is correct probly