• Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
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    21 hours ago

    Is this template thing not… Just how life works?

    Like, I’ve taken enough sociology and anthropology classes to know that humans these systems of behavior into our societies. We go into church and there is a set of behaviors expected, we go to the grocery and there is a set of behaviors expected when speaking with the clerk, et cetera, et cetera.

    But, like, is this a ND thing to need to memorize the templates for these interactions? Because that’s my whole life. Stand back, try to remain unseen, observe, memorize, then I can interact. Is that not just what everyone does?

    Y’all, I’m having a little bit of a crisis here

    • SunshineJogger@feddit.org
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      20 hours ago

      I feel that for many people it simply comes more naturally.

      It’s a seamless scale and I just presume I’m missing some receptors others have socially so I have to compensate with templates.

      Yes, people all have to learn what is what in which society and what situation or environment. I think it’s a major difference in constant self reflection others dont have that much and how raw data arrives. For me its like I perceive things slighty differently than most and I have to first convert it to a alternative viewport to make it fit properly.

      Small differences can have a big impact on if something is awkward or normal.