Tone matters, though. There’s a big difference between “good job! Here’s how other people did. Can you beat them?” and “I refuse to acknowledge that you did something good because you’re too lazy to make it to the top”.
ADHDers get a lot of the latter, often accompanied by some variant of “I know you can do better; you’re so smart/talented”. In my case it was pretty dilute because my parents were master-level chill but they still didn’t know shit about ADHD when they raised me.
Tone matters, though. There’s a big difference between “good job! Here’s how other people did. Can you beat them?” and “I refuse to acknowledge that you did something good because you’re too lazy to make it to the top”.
ADHDers get a lot of the latter, often accompanied by some variant of “I know you can do better; you’re so smart/talented”. In my case it was pretty dilute because my parents were master-level chill but they still didn’t know shit about ADHD when they raised me.