Recently I have tried to do this “touching grass” thing, again, and it’s difficult. Any fleeting joy of participating in this thing we call society, the moment I notice a homeless person struggling, it just evaporates. How can I enjoy participating in social events when most of them involve exchange of goods that could have been used for the purposes of helping those in need?

Do I need to donate a certain % of my income and then I get a pass? Well I don’t have an income, how much do I need to give then? Should I deduct a % of any money I get and set that aside for donations? Should I donate to local causes or international? Who gets the priority? Can I justify spending any money on things like a movie ticket to see a movie with friends, why so? What makes me more important than the person struggling on the street right next to the theater?

Are there any resources or guides you could point me towards? Is this something you’ve struggled with and found ways to cope with it? If so how have you managed?

(edit: I made an update in the comments. )

  • RedSturgeon [she/her]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
    3·
    17 days ago

    Nobody ever cares about trans people. And then people wonder why do I never join an org. If my participation matters that much why is it too much to ask to just get rid of the the “Male” designation in my passport? Nobody ever cares to help me with that.

    I know you’re trying to be helpful, but “Paperwork doesn’t mean anything” doesn’t help at all when I either have to live as a male or risk getting evicted by my landord if it turns out they’re transphobic or getting denied medical treatment based on who I am, because every time I show my passport to someone I either have to live as a male or out myself as transgender.

    • gayspacemarxist [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      2·
      17 days ago

      I’m also trans comrade, I haven’t gotten my white man paperwork updated either. I personally don’t particularly care for validation from a genocidal empire and would rather give them a “false name” for as long as is feasible. I’m sure I’ll have to get it updated eventually tho to avoid getting punished lol I am openly trans and willing to be perceived as a femboy in a lot of contexts so yk our experiences likely differ quite a bit

      I am sorry that it’s a source of distress for you though and I hope we can make a difference in that area in the near future.