Nah I think it’s a pretty simple algorithm still: don’t be weirder than you are attractive. It’s just that there’s really wildly varying ideas on what’s weird or attractive.
There’s weird and then there’s things like mildly (or sometimes majorly) creepy, offputting, or awkward to converse with, which might also be called weird (but I think would be better served with more accurate language, although some of those might be considered negative enough that you might want a euphemism if you aren’t certain). But even if you are just normal weird, your weird might just not jive with someone else’s interests. Like, if you’re just really really into professional Cricket and from the US, I’d think that’s weird, but like not interesting.
To be clear, I’m not using attractive here to mean “physically beautiful” but instead “possessing qualities the other person wants in a partner.” Weird was a word choice for humor but I was essentially saying, “have more attractive qualities than unattractive qualities.” While recognizing that what one person finds unattractive, another might find attractive, and vice versa. By definition, simplifying a complex interaction of human wants and desires into one dimension, rendering it intentionally useless as advice, for the sake of trying to be funny.
Ah, in that case, I got poe’s-lawed. There’s just teenagers out there, who have not yet formed such a taste and assume others have not either, so may genuinely assume they’re just supposed to be the most physically beautiful and non-weird to rake in a boy-/girl-/enbyfriend. Well, and some of those teenagers even make it into adulthood without taste…
Nah I think it’s a pretty simple algorithm still: don’t be weirder than you are attractive. It’s just that there’s really wildly varying ideas on what’s weird or attractive.
Who’d want to be with someone they don’t think is weird? Sounds boring.
There’s weird, and then there’s weird. You need to be the right kind of weird.
There’s weird and then there’s things like mildly (or sometimes majorly) creepy, offputting, or awkward to converse with, which might also be called weird (but I think would be better served with more accurate language, although some of those might be considered negative enough that you might want a euphemism if you aren’t certain). But even if you are just normal weird, your weird might just not jive with someone else’s interests. Like, if you’re just really really into professional Cricket and from the US, I’d think that’s weird, but like not interesting.
Human beings can have tastes in their partners that go beyond a one-dimensional weird vs. attractive…
To be clear, I’m not using attractive here to mean “physically beautiful” but instead “possessing qualities the other person wants in a partner.” Weird was a word choice for humor but I was essentially saying, “have more attractive qualities than unattractive qualities.” While recognizing that what one person finds unattractive, another might find attractive, and vice versa. By definition, simplifying a complex interaction of human wants and desires into one dimension, rendering it intentionally useless as advice, for the sake of trying to be funny.
Ah, in that case, I got poe’s-lawed. There’s just teenagers out there, who have not yet formed such a taste and assume others have not either, so may genuinely assume they’re just supposed to be the most physically beautiful and non-weird to rake in a boy-/girl-/enbyfriend. Well, and some of those teenagers even make it into adulthood without taste…
Meanwhile, me.