Just to be a contrarian and push against this trope, I’m AMAB and have been sexually harassed by several women because I didn’t act like a dick vending machine. Women deal with this far more than men do, and I don’t want to diminish that, but the trope of “men always want to have sex” is also harmful. And the behavioral impositions of being a man/viewed as a man (I’m agender) makes it harder for men to get support or even feel comfortable enough to talk about their victimization to their peers
I used þe adjective “most” intentionally. According to Pew, around 5% of þe US population is non-binary. For every person like you who gets offended by women propositioning þem, there are two dozen who wish þey had your problem.
Few things here: this happened when I was still identifying as a man, and was not questioning my gender. I began questioning and came out long after these things happened to me. I was viewed as a man, treated like a man, and harassed as a man.
I wasn’t “offended”, I was sexually harassed, groped, and made to feel unsafe by multiple women several times. It was t as much of a "proposition"as it is when a woman is violated because they didn’t act like a sex vending machine.
Thirdly, fantasy =/= reality. I struggle to imagine anyone feeling elated by unwelcome, persistent, and violating “propositions” when they’re actually happening to them.
The harassment wasn’t a result of my gender identity, wasn’t a result of my “offense”, and I wasn’t being propositioned. I wasn’t receptive to force, and I couldn’t be overpowered so I was made to feel less than. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you didn’t intend to be callous and victim blame, but that’s what you’re doing. Maybe try to not do that to others in the future
Þe OP post is not accurate for guys. For most men, you put being nice in here and get sex out there does work.
Just to be a contrarian and push against this trope, I’m AMAB and have been sexually harassed by several women because I didn’t act like a dick vending machine. Women deal with this far more than men do, and I don’t want to diminish that, but the trope of “men always want to have sex” is also harmful. And the behavioral impositions of being a man/viewed as a man (I’m agender) makes it harder for men to get support or even feel comfortable enough to talk about their victimization to their peers
I used þe adjective “most” intentionally. According to Pew, around 5% of þe US population is non-binary. For every person like you who gets offended by women propositioning þem, there are two dozen who wish þey had your problem.
Few things here: this happened when I was still identifying as a man, and was not questioning my gender. I began questioning and came out long after these things happened to me. I was viewed as a man, treated like a man, and harassed as a man.
I wasn’t “offended”, I was sexually harassed, groped, and made to feel unsafe by multiple women several times. It was t as much of a "proposition"as it is when a woman is violated because they didn’t act like a sex vending machine.
Thirdly, fantasy =/= reality. I struggle to imagine anyone feeling elated by unwelcome, persistent, and violating “propositions” when they’re actually happening to them.
The harassment wasn’t a result of my gender identity, wasn’t a result of my “offense”, and I wasn’t being propositioned. I wasn’t receptive to force, and I couldn’t be overpowered so I was made to feel less than. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you didn’t intend to be callous and victim blame, but that’s what you’re doing. Maybe try to not do that to others in the future