I am not trans, but, time after time, I always seem to really get along with anyone that isn’t heterosexual. I’m a man, who is attracted to women, but I seem to really share many things in common with such people, like a recent co-worker.

I like open source, I like poetry, I love anime, films, many different music genres, drama and art, philosophy, the beauty of the universe, etc . . . . . . . that are all things I struggle to find in common with most other hetero folks.

I just wanted to know if, well, this is relatable to anyone, like, does anyone have non-trans friends that they get along with much more that the average person, or is this strange?

  • Kayday@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    I don’t think it’s strange, maybe uncommon depending on where you are. One of my (trans woman) best friends is a cishet man. He has said similar things to you in the past, how he has an easier time generally getting along with women and queer people than to other cishet men.
    He is an emotionally intelligent person, and is drawn to people who share his interests and level of empathy. This tends to exclude most of the cishet men he knows, but not all.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    I know you’re really asking trans folk, but I’m poking my nose in anyway because I feel you.

    I’m cishet, but I’ve been at least loosely connected to the LGBTQ+ community since back when it was still just LGB as far as most people were aware of.

    While I had, and do have, cishet friends, I’ve always found that I tend to prefer the company of folks living on the rainbow in one way or another. Not necessarily because of shared interests, though that’s a factor for sure. It’s the community, the way that folks living beyond the default assumptions tend to look at the world, and treat people.

    I’ve never really fit the standard white cishet world, and likely never will even if it shifts a lot more than I believe possible. But hanging out with my gay friends always felt like home, like I belonged. Again, not necessarily because of shared interests, but it was really nice to be able to engage with some of those things and have people not only get them, but share enthusiasm.

    By the time I ran into the trans community within the greater LGBTQ community, I knew damn good and well that I was going to find plenty of common ground, and plenty to love about the people involved. I was right, and I am so thankful that trans people exist, though I dearly wish their path in the world was easier.

    Not saying I necessarily like every individual, but damn if I don’t usually like a damn bigger percentage than of the general population lol.

    So I totally relate :)

  • LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.org
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    4 days ago

    I, a cishet stay at home dad who likes cooking, gardening, musical theater, and the beauty of the universe (among other things currently considered gender non-conforming), also sometimes struggle finding common ground with people who find comfort in the patriarchy.

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    3 days ago

    I am AMAB (though enby in the last few years) and have always gotten along well in the lesbian community, have had lesbian lovers and my wife of twelve years (now divorced) identifies as lesbian.

    I hung out on r/actuallesbians until the Reddit API debacle pushed me to Lemmy.

    Some factors: I’ve always been a gender abolitionist (at least until I saw that trans folk get a lot from identifying as their true gender) and late in life, I was diagnosed with low-T, and all the signs are there that this has been a lifelong condition.

    Also in the current era, the rise of the manosphere and the hypermasculine / misogynist trend in the current MAGA movement have pushed me away from identifying as a man, which informed how I now check the NB box when there is one to check.