I was invited to my brother’s wedding, but he didn’t invite my mother because he still has a petty grudge against her, and he obviously wants to turn me against my mother. I’ve also ignored the RSVP, but I don’t know if anyone knows this.
I did not tell my co-workers about the wedding. I didn’t even WANT to bring the subject up. But my co-workers know my brother very well, and they REALLY want me to go to my brother’s wedding. I told them “Let me check my schedule” because I don’t want to talk to them about my family drama, but they told me “You have to go. You want to see them walking your nephew, right?”
What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to avoid this conversation? How can I tell them I’m not going without creating drama?
Why do your coworkers know your brother so well?
Because he was a previous employee and he visits occasionally. Often intentionally without letting me know ahead of time. He likes putting me on the spot.
If he tries to put you on the spot, you’re allowed to politely say that you couldn’t go and then dismiss yourself