They’ve been together over 40 years, I’d be fairly surprised. But if that’s who they are, I’d obviously support both of them.

Depends how they came out. They’ve treated my gay sister pretty poorly over the years so their coming out had better come with a big dose of self-reflection and apologies.

it would deeply pain me that they’ve had to suffer staying in the closet for so long, but i would be happy that they are now free to be what they feel they need to be.

Well, my mother’s name is a male name where we live. So not much would change.

I won’t react

One of my kids is trans and pan. The other is lesbian. My niece is trans and lesbian. My other nibling (look it up) is gender-fluid. My sister is bisexual. My aunt was lesbian. I have multiple gay uncles and grand-uncles.

There are a lot of LGBTQ+ people in my extended family, on both sides, and it’s not a small family. So if either came out as gay, I wouldn’t be particularly surprised.

Especially if it’s my mother, who is already out as bisexual.

As for how I’d react? Mostly by saying, “Thank you for telling me, that must have been very hard for you.” No recrimination or anger, of course. I love my parents, and either of them coming out wouldn’t affect that in the slightest.