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Cake day: April 25th, 2026

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  • I could honestly see it if it’s like, someone who has known you for 20 years and you make a point of always doing your face to the nines. like maybe it’s genuine concern, changes like that can signal having low energy associated with depression or etc etc etc but then I’m an overthinker and I worry too much.

    But it’s like work acquaintances will do it to her when she doesnt do full foundation and this and that and the other thing, which is just so goddamn rude.



  • 6’0" here, so not that tall. For me there’s a small component of wishing to be more a little more feminine sometimes, but all things considered being a big strong man rules.

    I wish i were slightly shorter because this world is built for average sized people. Flying always winds up being an exercise in quantifying the value of my own suffering. Is 4-8 hours of claustrophobia, leg cramps, and general lack of dignity worth an extra $400? Sometimes, absolutely. Do i have an extra $400? hell no. I don’t even fly that often and i have strong preferences for aircraft. I will cry if i wind up getting tricked into economy class on a 737-800 again. The seats are 16 inches wide and i think the pitch is something like 28".

    I also can’t comfortably sit in a miata unless the top is down. I daily drove an AW11 for a couple of years and while it was tons of fun i looked like Mr Incredible driving to work and I hit my head constantly. Kitchen counters are way too short for me, i can’t imagine the back pain for taller people who like to cook.



  • napkin math time. some of what follows i looked up but will not cite because i am on my phone and find text editing on this infernal contraption to be torment. some of it is pure conjecture because multitasking is also torment. when possible i will return and amend the numbers, but for now intend to favor cars whenever possible.

    Richmond has 108,990 households. Let’s round that down to a nice even 100k. If the average household has 2 cars, that gives 200k cars.

    Something like 30% of all cars carry a loan in the US. Let’s be nice and pretend everyone in richmond got a killer deal on financing their cars and the average payment is lower than it really is. We’ll go with the $525 average used car payment cited in the article.

    60k*$525/mo=$31.5m/mo. Call it $30m and we get an eyewatering $360m/y, just in loan payments. this does not include insurance, fuel, and taxes, or paper costs like depreciation, or shared costs like infrastructure, or abstract costs like hours of their lives stuck in traffic, or externalities like healthcare spending caused by sedentary lifestyle and exposure to pollution.

    Richmond, a city of 230k with a median annual income of about $65k, spends $360m every year on paying banks back for the privilege to incur all those other costs a real analysis would have factored in. Greater Richmond Transit Company’s approved budget for FY2027 is just over $100m.

    I can very confidently assert that Richmond spends more than $3.60 on car loans for every $1.00 it spends on its entirely free transit system. Perhaps some of those households are genuinely better served by this expense, but I’d wager the vast majority of them are much poorer than they need to be, just because they reckon cars are a necessity.