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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Honestly your smile probably looks fine. Just don’t go full smiling with your teeth showing while in conversations.

    I’ll still forget to change my facial expressions from time to time. Mirroring others helps. Try to (low-key) monitor their facial expressions and slightly copy them. They’re smiling broadly, you smile a bit. They frown deeply, you put on a concerned look - just furrow your brow a little.

    Combining mirroring their expressions with listening more than you talk and they’ll feel like you’re a really good listener.


  • It takes time.

    I first noticed other people looking for eye contact in 7th grade. Add that to your mask first.

    Next, you likely can’t express excitement “normally,” but it’s fairly easy to fake aloofness. Be chill.

    Finally, listen more than you talk. Most people love talking. If they feel like you’re really listening to them, they’ll want to talk to you.

    I started making my mask in middle school, but honestly it was probably halfway through high school before it felt like a “normal” person. Even then, and now 30 or so years later, it takes effort. It feels like I’m faking it a lot, and I guess that’s because I am. But my boss just complimented my personal skills, so faking it IS it.

    Keep pretending. Keep noticing what the “normals” are doing and work to imitate it. Not overtly. Just be a little quiet, chime in when you have something, and practice. And you’ll notice even when you’re trying to blend in, you’ll likely attract other neurodivergent people that will make up your core friend group.










  • It isn’t as optimistic as that. If I understood it right, it’s just a couple used car private equities that did some shady banking in order to not have to use their own money to pay for the cars they were selling, then going bankrupt because the customers couldn’t keep up with the over inflated monthly payments.

    So the only people that were screwed were the customers. The “companies” that declared bankruptcy were likely just shells playing with other people’s money. Used car prices are unaffected.