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  • America does not have a national age of consent; each state sets their own. It’s 16 in 30 states, 17 in nine states, and 18 in 11 states.

    Yes, the age of consent is 16 in the majority of the USA.

    Several of the states which set it at 17 or 18 also have close in age exemptions (AKA Romeo and Juliet laws) which cover the case that OP raises. In such cases, it is legal to have sex with somebody slightly below the age of consent as long as both people are sufficiently close in age; some states, such as Texas, also require them to have been dating since both were under the state age of consent. This means that, in most of America, it is perfectly legal for a 19-year-old to have sex with a 16-year-old.

    The misunderstanding most likely comes from the fact that the majority of entertainment media is made in New York and California, where the age of consent is 18 with no exceptions, and pop culture writers act like this is the case everywhere.

    Also I should clarify that bringing a minor across state limes to take advantage of a lower age of consent is a felony, for obvious reasons.

















  • BOTW helped me process my depression.

    I was born in 1986, and ever since I had been doing what was expected of me. Immediate family were all aggressively opposed to me ever making a decision or having any agency, yet somehow I always ended up doing the wrong thing, even when I did the exact opposite of the wrong thing.

    I’d always liked games, but had started to feel like I was just going through the motions, acting out a predetermined path. Then, in 2018, I played BOTW. Holy crap. “Your goal is to save the princess. How you go about that is up to you.”

    And there was so much freedom! I could go anywhere, do anything I wanted. I could run off to look at something twitching off the path. I could be a berserker, a knight, or a ninja (ninja wherever possible). There were no guardrails, no predetermined paths, just a vast, beautiful world where I could do as I pleased.

    I was also getting therapy at the time and working out my feelings. I had been thinking a lot about being a supporting character in my own life story, but when I played BOTW, I was truly in control in a way I had never experienced in real life. Seeing and feeling this freedom, comparing it with my own life, really clarified a lot about where my depression arose from and how I could manage it.

    (My depression is fortunately mild enough that drugs would do more harm than good. I’m no longer suicidal and have a few personal strategies I use when I have an attack).



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    25 days ago

    Geography and circumstance.

    I’d recommend reading Why the West Rules - For Now by Ian Morris. The book is controversial and definitely not the last word, but is worthwhile for its grappling with the big picture.

    Relevant to your question, Morris makes the case that there was economic pressure on Europeans to sail west. Everybody wanted silk and spices from India and China. For Europeans, this meant trading with Arab, Iranian, and Turkish merchants, and so spices were expensive. Finding direct routes to China and India meant people would be able to buy silk and spices more cheaply, which would make people rich. So lots of people were very interested in sailing all the way around Africa, or going west to get to the East.

    Hence Columbus stumbling onto the Americas. And then colonialism happened.

    But this isn’t a uniquely European thing. When Columbus arrived, the Quechua were already doing very European-style colonialism, and the Aztecs had a form on imperialism quite similar to the ancient Greeks. Carthage, Greece, Iran, and tge Arabs all engaged in imperialism and colonialism, but the European powers won.

    Which, to be clear, doesn’t mean it’s right for anybody to do it.