I’m 34. It sucks trying to date when your generation is the last one that overall kinda sucked socially. In my experience with the public, even just those ~5 years younger than me tend to be way more chill and open minded. I get flirted with by guys that are way too young, hit on by creeps who are way too old, and ignored by most of the dead eyed local dudes in their 30s. And this is why I end up flirting with 25-29 year old trans boys <3

When people and places that should be dirty are clean and kempt. Pirates on the seas should be dirty. Soldiers in the field should be dirty. Cowboys on a cattle drive should be dirty. Swamp cultists should be dirty. I appreciate realistically dirty characters. It distracts me every time when characters are clean and showered with their hair done on day three of being lost in the woods or some shit. It’s one of the many things Our Flag Means Death nails. Even Stede gets grimy, because piracy is grimy work.

Tbh that doesn’t really matter. She may be able to get where she’s going faster because of her own experiences, but any dramatic personal change in a romantic partner can take time and effort to process. She has to sort out the part of her life where she thought she had a boyfriend. Even even you understand it, retconning part of your life is a trippy process. A few months is very little time for a major life change like this. You’re still finding yourself, and I’m sure she’s trying hard to keep up with where and who you are. Idk how long you’ve been together/known each other overall, but this is a new chapter for the two of you that has kind of just started. Once you’ve found your zen, your normal mind, she’ll be there for you before anyone else can.

I’m approaching my twelve year anniversary with my wife who was with me through transition. Your partner needing time to reframe and reunderstand you as a person is normal and part of the process. You have to be patient with each other. This is a massive change for her and her life too.

Personally, I suggest focusing on more casual, low stakes feminine existence. This is someone you spend time with. Show her your natural self, your normal mind, your zen, and she will see you for the woman you are. Getting fitted at VS and chastity are both very dramatic and pointed. They don’t contain an intimate reflection of your feminine self. Maybe go thrift store shopping for regular clothing together. It’s very free form and casual. It allows you to sculpt and show more of who you are. Involve her in the process so she can know you deeply and completely as a woman.

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