we should really get rid of the idea of the “friendzone”.
https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/time-to-ditch-friendzone-idea/
I think this article explains it fine, but to summarize:
it comes from an idea that men (especially ‘nice guys’) deserve sex from women for being in their proximity.
being friends with someone should be a good thing and not just the waiting zone for a relationship.
I try to be ready to leave, meaning dressed and bag is packed, as early as possible. I am for being as ready as possible at least 15 minutes before I leave. I add and subtract minutes depending on how important the event is and how much I need to have checked before leaving.
also, I try to aim for being at least 10 minutes early for most events. this is working very good for me. it allows small talk with other people who’ve arrived and it allows time for being late.
it is time consuming, but I’ve come to enjoy the breaks it gives, before leaving and when arriving early ^^
also, thinking through what I need to prepare before leaving as early as possible. Often, I think about it the afternoon before I have to pack.
good luck :)
//edit:
these systems don’t stop me from getting distracted and forgetting things, but because I’ve moved everything 15 minutes earlier, then when I’m late for my own deadlines, often I’ll still make it to the actual deadlines :)
what is competitive programming ? 0.0
I don’t think it is on purpose, but this feels somewhat like antisemitic propaganda.
it just icks me to see ‘they’ underlined and then drawings of non-human humanoids who control the world :/