Also, for what it’s worth, having read your othwrs comments, it really does seem like you are going to make a good father. In the end, dedication is far more important than any fleeting emotion. You might connect with them, you might not. That’s a gamble that might never pay off for you. But the fact that are you willing to put in the dedication even without feeling that attachment is admirable, and is a neccassary trait for a father. You are not a bad father, you made an ill thought out choice, not neccassarily even a mistake until you deem it so. So long as your continued choice, regardless of the circumstances, is dedication, the odds increase every day that the child will connect with you regaurdless of whether you connect with them. And thats whats important now. You are their father first and foremost, and you are currently doing a sound job maintaining that. As for your wife, I don’t really have any advice. I’m sure you’ve already heard or thought of any thing I could tell you you shouldve done, or shouldve told her. It sounds like you’ve already exhausted my ideas for things you can do to help her. I hate to sound unempathetic, but I don’t really know what else to say.
Inglish was the only thing to trip me up