Thallo [she/her, they/them]

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  • When I came out, multiple people asked me this question, and I really don’t understand why.

    Decades ago, my uncle changed his name (from a male name to another male name), and nobody asked him “well, when we refer to you in the past, should I use your old name?”

    Everyone just instinctively started using his new name to refer to him, even in the past, no questions asked.

    You might think it’s different for something like pronouns because they were different at the time, but it’s not. For example, if someone said, “Dr. Thompson used to go swimming in the lake when she was a child.” Nobody would say, “Oh, but she wasn’t a doctor at the time, so you shouldn’t refer to her as a doctor in the past tense.” It’s normal and intuitive to talk about people as they are now, even when referring to the past.

    Trans people, for some reason, are just treated by different standards.