Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]

I got the same deal but noticed my quality of help suffers if I don’t help myself first. I do all the cooking at home and if someone’s hungry I’m quick to feed them before myself but what ends up happening is I start making mistakes or delivery a poorer quality of care when I do that vs if I eat something first then help. Bigger goals I think I tend to take on other’s struggles for them so I don’t have to think about what I need to do too, it’s left me stunted in many regards and I’ve come away frustrated when I’m not allowed to help (mind you I was never asked for help to begin with but that’s another story)

Idk about this tbh, my parents are immigrants too but we celebrate say mother’s day and father’s day different than the days here. I will say I do have some friends prob in your position where their parents were against teaching them spanish but like my parents only spoke that so I learned I guess english as my second language and I’m fine. It’s always been in their face that they didn’t belong in america and I feel the same but like we here so we’ll make do. My parents poor too so don’t think that’s the issue tbh more has to do with trying to assimilate I bet (with the caveat that america will never really accept us anyway but that’s besides the point)