Apparently not.

I got nothin

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Emotionally? No. Linguistically, sure.

It’s seriously insane growing up on star trek and then seeing it come to life.

Still holding out for flying cars.

And warp drive!

True. It is plausible. At the same time I have to think that if the human race hasn’t evolved to factor cooperation in tribes in most cases, we wouldn’t be here discussing this.

This is all I’ve run across on reverse engineering, so far but it is quite interesting.

https://bsky.app/profile/filippo.abyssdomain.expert/post/3kowjkx2njy2b

My cat told me not to believe these lies spread by dogs.

The whole Colorado River water thing is a fucking complicated mess that I can’t begin to understand. All kinds of weird water rights laws between farmers, ranchers and whoever, not to mention the all the use in Arizona, and fuck knows what else. Every time I read an article about disputes and such my brain melts.

Let’s talk about cotton farming in Arizona, too.

Best I have ever had was this, but on cibatta with a spicy Cajun mayo type spread. From a local deli chain in Denver.

Not op and I don’t think they forfeit that right at all.

What I have wrestled with is: where is the line between taking precautions against known threats and victim blaming?

Maybe the line is temporal.

After someone is victimized, we can acknowledge that and maybe keep our mouths shut with victim blaming nonsense like, “you should have done XYZ”. Because that doesn’t help, further hurts the victim, and saying it makes you an asshole.

Prior to being victimized isn’t it up to each of us to evaluate and manage personal risks given all the threats we face every day? I think so and I think each of us is responsible for learning about and managing risk and deciding what precautions to take.

That isn’t to say we must take every precaution no matter how impractical or outrageous (like not walking on the sidewalk or never taking nude selfies).

It is never acceptable to tell someone else what their risk tolerance is or to dictate to them what precautions to take.

Doing that is being an asshole.

And I now believe that is where the line is drawn.

It is shitty to tell others how to live their life. It is good, however, to be willing to help people be aware of and understand the risks they face and offer advice if asked, on mitigating those risks. Provided your goal is to help and you don’t act like a sanctimonious ass.

Whatever we do, we may still be victimized and the blame always rests squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrator. They took the action that victimized us.

If you couldn’t tell I do cybersecurity as a living. My job isn’t to manage risk, it’s to help others achieve their objectives while understanding and managing risks they face.

Hopefully my sarcasm was obvious.

I swear people are just gladly diving headfirst into total despair. Any hint of good news? Shit all over it with a one liner as the guy above, trying to point out the hypocrisy as if the vacationer should just not fly back from the trip lol. Like jfc, would it kill you take the small W??

People who see the effects of climate change (on the reef or whatever) with their own eyes are going to be a lot more likely to take climate change seriously and maybe take some real action – there’s a massive list of things we could be trying rather than being a doomer on social media. It’s not that hard to find activist groups, write govt representatives, etc. And fuck this idea that millions of people doing something won’t make a change lol. More learned helplessness.

Not that we aren’t fucked… but how fucked we will be depends on what we do. Dooming on social media is guaranteed to not get it done.

All it does is drains you of any motivation (or will to live) you might have had to do something, even if small.

I’m just fucking sick of the constant despair-aganda and kind of want to tell people spreading it to shove it up their asses.

Fucking asshole should’ve swam back.

Ugh that’s terrible.

I’m tryna think what could be helpful here. Without knowing your situation better, I am not sure which of these apply.

If there is DV going on, National domestic violence hotline - https://www.thehotline.org/

Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, or connect to emergency community services by calling 211.

The Autism Society’s National Helpline to learn about resources and services in your area - https://autismsociety.org/contact-us/

I hope something here helps. Really sorry you’re going through this. :(

Hey, you missed this part:

he yells, calls the woman names

Talk about how this part doesn’t happen because you’ve never personally seen it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

Yeah. Hilarious.

Turn him down and he yells, calls the woman names, maybe attacks her now or later, stalks her, rapes her, murders her, kills a kid, shoots up a mall, or mows down a crowd with a van, or…

Men fear rejection, women fear being killed.

Clearly a Rhode Island Red

Definitely talk to your doc. (My GP prescribes my meds; the psychologist diagnosed and wrote a letter).

I don’t really have noticeable side effects. When I first tried the stuff I started at 30mg then at 40mg I started seeing lots of bright spots and went back to 30. Freaky experience.

I’ve been on 30mg for years now. My heart doesn’t usually race but some days I get a little jittery. I don’t recall it being elevated back when I was using an exercise monitor. It probably doesn’t help that I drink a double shot latte every morning with my meds. My BP did not seem to be affected by the lisdex last time I tested it on and off the ADHD meds. (I am on BP meds too).

Worth mentioning, I am also on Effexor (venlafaxine) for depression and anxiety, which was diagnosed a decade before adhd-c. Prior to Effexor I was on Lexapro for a few years.

When I was testing dosage, my PA said to increase 10mg every few days until I noticed it helping, then increase until I noticed side effects and then we would go with 10mg below that. Or something like that. Which is how I ended up at 30mg.

I recall that I couldn’t tell at first how much 30 helped vs 40 but now that I have more experience with the medicine and self evaluating my symptoms. The difference between 30mg and none is now very obvious.

Although… I have been thinking about trying 40 again so I can re-evaluate, in case I get a bit more out of it without side effects this time. Maybe I will do that next time I’m up for a refill.

The other thing their evolution has done is make it so we can’t stop it growing lol. Never ever plant that stuff in anything but a container. Maybe not even that. It spreads by wind and magic.

I can totally relate. Been there many times. Kind of there now to a lesser degree (i.e. not having meltdowns but still so overwhelmed I am battling depression for the umpteenth billionth time and am really discouraged).

Things that help me:

Regular exercise even if light exercise, like walking around the block for 10-30 min. The more I do this per week the better off I am.

Regular sleep; I’m way more mentally tough when rested. I’m a fragile mess if I am too tired plus stressed.

Writing a list. The pile usually looks and feels infinite in my head but finite and thus smaller on paper.

Still, list can be overwhelming. When things are really bad, make three lists:

• “OMG MUST DO NOW OR I AM SO FUCKED”
• “Need to get this done soon but not fucked yet”
• “In the big scheme of things, not that urgent, not that necessary”

And prune any unnecessary items.

E.g. “I really want to finish that one project… But you know what? If I throw in the towel, officially quit, toss it in the bin and never think about it again it is a burden lifted so… fuck it, bye project!”

I tend to overcommit, too, so sometimes it is better to call the friend and just be honest and say it probably won’t get done ever. I get really stressed and guilty when I have favors hanging over my head that I know I won’t have time for.

I’ve got two of those hanging over my head now.

If can help to have a friend help prioritize your list. They can help you be brutal in pruning, and objectively determine what is most urgent.

Then… focus on one super urgent thing at a time.

Helps me to think through the first most basic steps to get started on a scary thing that I want to put off. Instead of trying to climb a mountain, it helps to think of the first steps on the trail, the first obstacle. I mean basic as in, “ok first I need a pencil, then paper” – that level of basic. Once I get started i can keep rolling. It’s all about getting over the emotional hurdle associated with starting…

Also helps to not expect too much of myself.

One accomplishment is all I can muster, most days.

Other days just doing basic hygiene and some days just getting out of bed is an accomplishment.

Occasionally when stars align or I’m not stressed and overwhelmed I can knock out several things.

Of course right now I feel like giving up… So that’s probably not expecting enough lol.

Maybe it would help to have a mutual accountability buddy, where you encourage each other and report progress. That can be motivating in a good way.