I really love this reply and especially how it promotes genuine decency rather than coerced decency. I know I’m not exactly adding to the discussion, but I really wanted to recognize how warm this reply felt to me with something more than a mere upvote.
I read “grinder” as “gender” before I realized where I was.
I really liked my Rancilio Rocky. I love my Niche Zero.
Go to the top of your budget, then try again in five years. Enjoy the ride.
Surely you mean 5318008.
Za.
No worse nor better than “10 stone, 8”.
Thomas Dolby, “I love you, goodbye”.
I use the language that I think my interlocutor would prefer. If I don’t know, then I default to the language of the social context, unless I specifically want to practise a language at that moment. If I want to practise, then I ask first.
Ultra Edit 32 was excellent.
“Då kanske du lär dig att läsa skyltar! Analfabetjävel!”
A pint of water is 16 oz, but a pint of beer is always 20 oz.
So… Just like general-purpose software development? I hope you get to work without LLMs.
Should be “wið”, no? 😉
“You can’t control X” is not the same as “X is your fault”. Earthquakes, for example, aren’t your fault. I notice that people infer blame quite easily in response to statements such as these. I know I had to train myself out of this and in moments of stress, I fall back into it.
“Only you can choose to ignore what they say about you” is not the same as “It’s your fault that you care about what they say about you”. It’s true it’s up to you to learn how to ignore others’ opinions of you, but that doesn’t mean you deserve blame for the patterns in your mind. Maybe you are and maybe you aren’t. Maybe it doesn’t matter. Maybe it only matters what you learn to do from here, which probably depends on finding adequate support. I hope you find it.
Your thoughts and feelings are not wrong by definition. Unhelpful, maybe. An obstacle, perhaps. But not wrong. They can’t be wrong. They just are. They simply exist. The question becomes how to find the tools to make sense of your thoughts and feelings, as well as to let go of the unhelpful and pick up the helpful. That’s what I’d expect from your therapist: to help you do that. I’m sorry that you haven’t had that experience.
“You just have to deal with it” seems utterly unhelpful to me, but “You’re ultimately the one who needs to find ways to deal with it” seems undeniably true to me. It’s not easy, but nobody else can do it for you. And you’re ultimately responsible for the determination it might take to get there.
Those are my thoughts. I hope you find something helpful in there somewhere. Best wishes. Peace.
I have settled into this pattern:
Long names stay unnecessarily long when we don’t notice the patterns that suggest the missing structures.
The more examples of this kind of thing, the better!
(And my preferred name for that is rolesByEmployee. In general, “values by key”.)
It’s much more likely that we sound like children than we sound like an LLM.
Low feels more numb than dark. More like being on pause than everything is terrible. More “I’ll try again later” and less “this is never going to get better”.
I don’t remember the transition. I can’t tell you how long it took. I was only on antidepressant medication for about 18 months.
Peace.
Kanske är det bara att AI vill para ihop fingrar och rövhål? Romantiskt, eller?