simpletailor [he/him]

Very quick: Müsli or oatmeal, overnight optional; Fruit and/or nuts; Toast/bagel with peanut butter, jam, or margarine;

Less quick: Tofu scramble; Tofu “egg”: Mung bean “egg” (good for omelets or egg sandwiches): Crêpes, pancakes, or waffles made with vegan batter; French toast (either with the mung bean “egg” as batter or a vegan batter); Home fries / hash browns

I’m not one for meat substitutes, but there are plenty of vegan breakfast sausages on the market if thats up your alley

I know you just described your bean prep, but just to inform anyone reading who might buy beans from the shop: canned refried beans often contain lard in my experience

The only way to learn is to give it a try. There was a time when you didn’t know how to use Windows or MacOS and had to look things up for those–e.g. where certain files are stored. Like you said, boot from USB and mess around with it. It’s the same point-and-click, drag-and-drop type of setup as Windows and Mac. I use Ubuntu and don’t really have any more problems than I did with Windows. I also hear Mint and PopOS get recommended, but I haven’t ever messed around with them.

(Before you tell me the error messages are not that bad: the following sentence appears in this thread, of which I know none of the words and I do not ever want to:)

The Debian developers have also criticized Linux Mint for mixing Ubuntu software packages with Debian packages, creating “Frankendebian”.

“The Apple developers have also criticized Microsoft for mixing iOS apps with Windows apps, creating FrankenOS.” They’re just names of operating systems. You don’t really need specialized knowledge. Most applications you probably need are a one-click install in an app store.

You might have to Google “where is x setting”, “where is x folder”, but you only know that for your current OS because you’ve been using it for awhile.

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Larry David wrote both shows

Fwiw, I have a parent like this. This is antisocial behavior: they are actively causing social and psychological harm to those around them. My last partner and I had to be around my parents out of financial necessity. When we were able to disentangle, we did, and then cut all contact. My present partner of two years has not met either of my parents, and won’t, as long as I can help it. My parents don’t even know my partner exists, because they don’t get to learn anything about my life anymore; they use information as a weapon.

These dynamics that you are putting up with are untenable. Your partner needs to protect you from their aggressively racist family member(s) and anyone who permits/abeds the racism. To echo other posters: you need to have a difficult conversation if you expect to maintain a long-term relationship with your partner. It’s possible your partner doesn’t recognize how this baseline toxicity is unacceptable, because they likely grew up surrounded by it. It’s not necessarily your job to educate them, but they will need to take an active role in reshaping the dynamics they are in.

It’s fair to ask your partner to call out the racist bullshit when it happens. It’s fair to tell your partner that you don’t want to be in the same room or at the same events as the family member. You don’t deserve to be racially aggressed while the rest of the family tacitly looks on. You don’t deserve that kind of isolation.