When I did have a car, I felt #2 still, since traffic would dictate when I left. I only felt #2 go away when I was within biking/walking distance to my job.

Hence why I also said advocate.

If there are no relevant ballot issues, you will need to find like minded people to create petitions. Start small: Painted bike lanes, reduce speeds in neighborhoods, signage, etc

The other option is be angry and bitter on the Internet. 🤷‍♀️

This is why you vote/advocate for bike friendly infrastructure to exist where you currently live.