My dad literally hits me and punishes me by starving me. However, my friend says he’s “just trying to shape me into the perfect young man” and that he “truly loves me”. This almost makes me think she’s either my dad in secret or dating my dad.
In all seriousness, what do I do? Stop talking to her? Talk to her? Be her friend despite it?
You document your dad’s child abuse and then report him so he can be prosecuted, convicted, and given a proper punishment back.
he needs to understand why his actions are wrong. punishing him isn’t teaching.
Surely his son’s resentment should serve that purpose.
But in lieu of that, sure. However, I’m also of the opinion that teaching someone like this anything is second priority to just getting them to stop doing the bad thing.
of course, stop it. but what good is a jail sentence or fine going to do?
You seem to value fairness and justice. I worked at a shelter and it’s often not as simple. Often, the dependency that children have with their abusive parents (or partners with their abusive partners) is something that needs to be worked on first, before any attempt to leave is made.