now, i don’t know if it’s such a big deal, i’m (a trans man) just getting it “off my chest” (that’s why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he’s been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he’s happy, he barely has any time for me because he’s playing video games. he didn’t even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i’d let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he’s bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that’s how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" “you’re so handsome” but other than that, not really anything.
please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.
i reposted this to mental health because it’s kind of about his mental health struggles.
Are the games permanent or how he interacts with his social circle?
Sometimes I get really really into a game (cough Factorio, Anno) and it consumes my brain, but after a few weeks I move on. I do get very into games so distractions get met with an “ugh” (not proud of that)
Also is that depression managed in any way, because for me depression makes me not able to decide what I want to do. If he default to just turning on CoD or whatever then maybe he’s just in that mood too often and the root cause is that depression.
he just turns on CoD or GTA to play it, his depression is not managed
My non professional opinion, that’s probably the place to start.
I didn’t really know how much depression was sapping my energy and motivation until I sought treatment.