im so sick of seeing reports regarding men posting in women-only communities and i cant help but get annoyed with these guys.

the rules are clearly presented. either youre not paying attention or youre just an asshole who purposefully throws their opinion in a place explicitly not wanting it.

what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

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    Thanks for providing a great reason to leave this community.

    The OP has been hostile in the comments, and in their OP, violating Rule 1, and Rule 5.

    Do better.

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      Thanks for providing a great reason to leave this community.

      It’s not an airport. You don’t need to announce your departure.

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        It’s not an airport. You don’t need to announce your departure.

        I know.

        I did it because I wanted to share my point of view, like you have done here. Both of which are admittedly pointless and time wasting endeavors.

        Also, I’ve always been a bit skeptical when someone decides to leave a community because they don’t like a post and/or poster. As if they represent the totality of the sub.

        It is not about the post or poster, it is about the lack of action from mods in regards to the post or poster. Which is a constant problem in this community that I have noticed, and a good reason to leave it.

        I find it funny that you care so much, so thank you for that.

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      OK, I pulled out a computer for you so I could see the rules side by side with my post because my mobile client doesn’t allow it.

      Rule 1: Be nice and; have fun

      Doxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here.

      OP came in swinging hot, maybe a little toxic, but there are valid points behind the hot words.

      However, OP has shown that they are able to accept other viewpoints from valid arguments (https://lemmy.ca/post/48960508/18080134). So I would argue this is borderline.

      I have to say, I have no idea what sealioning is though.

      Rule 5: This is not a support community.

      It is not a place for ‘how do I?’, type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.

      This isn’t a “How do I”. This is an open ended attempt (with some frustration) to try to under why members of the community do certain things.

      That’s my view anyway. What’s yours?

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        This is an open ended attempt (with some frustration) to try to under why members of the community do certain things.

        I am fine with not commenting in women-only spaces, but that is very much not what OP is trying to do. OP is venting and using a rhetorical question they don’t seem to particularly want an answer to. Is that “requesting support?” Does that extend to emotional/moral support?

        I think if the OP is complaining about not following the rules and spirit of a community when posting, it seems appropriate to point out if they are violating the rules (and spirit) of the community they post it in.

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        Sealioning is when someone pretends to be ‘just asking questions’ in good faith in an attempt to sow discord in a community.

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        “Cite sources of your claim, prove it, and spend ages providing material that I will dismiss as irrelevant!”.

        The name comes from this comic:

        Sparrohawcs explanation is also a pretty good one.

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          Cite sources of your claim, prove it, and spend ages providing material that I will dismiss as irrelevant!

          That just seems like an objection whiners raise when they dislike challenges: they

          • find the burden of supporting their argument coherently too taxing or
          • don’t know how to resolve mutually accepted premises or
          • don’t like assumptions questioned.

          No one needs to answer challenges to their argument or “spend ages providing material”. By that same token, no one else needs to care about a weak, poorly defended argument.

          It’s easy enough to ignore or reciprocate preposterous lines of questioning: seems like a skills issue.

          As for “sowing discord”, there’s a strong philosophical tradition of doing pretty much that (ie, shamelessly, impudently breaking conformity to unchallenged conventions & assumptions) to dispel “false belief, mindlessness, folly, and conceit” in the pursuit of “mental clarity or lucidity”. They were called dogs & would even state “other dogs bite their enemies, I bite my friends to save them”. Such classical philosophers might be called trolls nowadays.

          Any system that treats them as trolls is broken in my opinion.

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        I shared my view and left the community. Was something about my comment unclear?

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          I didn’t see why it was a clear violation of rule 5. I was wondering why you thought it was