I think it’s also a symptom of our society overvaluing romantic relationships and the nuclear family, at the expense of friends, other family, and general community. When you combine that with the traumatic experiences some have in romantic relationships, they have nowhere to turn to for emotional connection and support.
Back in pre-agriculture days, humans would sit around every night by the fire and interact with the rest of the tribe. That’s what we spent 99% of human history doing. Farming isolated us from the tribe and put every family in their own house. Then the Industrial Age gave the family distractions like newspapers, radios, and movies. Currently we’ve got a phone to distract us all the time.
Even then, there’s a difference between having a bracelet or a necklace someone gifted you, versus owning multiple living spaces while others in your community die due to exposures to the elements.
I don’t remember where I read it, but there’s a concept of private property vs personal property. Personal property is your stuff you use, like your bracelet or your bowl. Private property is your apartment building.
Rumour has it that some American Native tribes had zero personal property, down to things like tools. The concept just didn’t exist, everything was communal.
Exactly - loading all your need for companionship, relationships and love onto a single person and relationship (and type of relationship) is guaranteed to cause disappointment- it’s too much for person. I’ve been happily married for years, and key to that is other friends, companions and family.
I think it’s also a symptom of our society overvaluing romantic relationships and the nuclear family, at the expense of friends, other family, and general community. When you combine that with the traumatic experiences some have in romantic relationships, they have nowhere to turn to for emotional connection and support.
Back in pre-agriculture days, humans would sit around every night by the fire and interact with the rest of the tribe. That’s what we spent 99% of human history doing. Farming isolated us from the tribe and put every family in their own house. Then the Industrial Age gave the family distractions like newspapers, radios, and movies. Currently we’ve got a phone to distract us all the time.
Don’t forget the glorious idea of private property!
People always had private property.
Remember kids: personal property IS NOT the same as private property.
Always seems like a stretch. Not all cultures had the concept
Even then, there’s a difference between having a bracelet or a necklace someone gifted you, versus owning multiple living spaces while others in your community die due to exposures to the elements.
Modern society is worthless.
I don’t remember where I read it, but there’s a concept of private property vs personal property. Personal property is your stuff you use, like your bracelet or your bowl. Private property is your apartment building.
Rumour has it that some American Native tribes had zero personal property, down to things like tools. The concept just didn’t exist, everything was communal.
I’m a fan of sharing as much as the next person but I’m not sharing my toothbrush.
I doubt this rumor. I thought they all had some personal items they carried around like their clothes.
They would also outcast and shun most of the asshats.
We do the same, just nowadays most of the asshats self-shun and that’s how we get things like wireborn parasocial relationships.
Exactly - loading all your need for companionship, relationships and love onto a single person and relationship (and type of relationship) is guaranteed to cause disappointment- it’s too much for person. I’ve been happily married for years, and key to that is other friends, companions and family.
This is a good expansion on that idea. The Four Loves