If someone is judged as threatening based on their gender, they have been wronged. And what do you mean “stop making it about yourself”? Did they ask to be judged in the first place?
I have friends that get read as women who can’t do stuff that would be completely normal for any cis male (like going to a festival alone) because there is a real possibility of them being assaulted, murdered or at the very least getting harassed. And even if it is only one in a hundred men that would do such things it doesn’t matter if the other 99 do nothing to stop it.
If someone is judged as threatening based on their gender, they have been wronged. And what do you mean “stop making it about yourself”? Did they ask to be judged in the first place?
I have friends that get read as women who can’t do stuff that would be completely normal for any cis male (like going to a festival alone) because there is a real possibility of them being assaulted, murdered or at the very least getting harassed. And even if it is only one in a hundred men that would do such things it doesn’t matter if the other 99 do nothing to stop it.