I’m not sure how good an appeal to hypocrisy criticising Apple while continuing to use their products is…

Participating in your society and owning a car (in the US) are things you don’t necessarily get a choice in, unless you want to go live as a hermit in the woods.

But you certainly can choose to just not use Apple products if you disagree with their approach. I don’t even remember the last time I did. There is competition in the market, including more ethical brands (i.e. the Fairphone) if those take your fancy.