Oh no, now I see that snow raven deleted her posts wishing us all a good night o.o

I hope you are ok too sweetie

I wasn’t trying to compare you with racists, I could have worded that sentence better. I meant that just having the existence of trans coms on his instance isn’t some kind of shield for his comments and lack of apology. There is no clear statement that I have seen from him that he really understood that what he said was harmful. Instead he delivered a cop out response and literally said he didn’t want to talk about it anymore. That statement was in no way a recanting of his previous statement, and it is pretty clear to me that he learned nothing and just wanted the controversy that he stirred up to go away.

I find it sad that you would go to such lengths to defend this so I’m sorry but I’ll have to block you now. You’ve made your opinion clear and it’s not congruent with the reality of the situation.

It would be one thing if he actually tried to understand why what he said was “controversial” and made a real attempt to apologize instead of throwing up his hands and insisting he didn’t want to talk about it anymore.

This reminds me of the bigoted people that espouse their shitty opinions and then refuse to discuss it further when they realize what they are saying maybe sucks a lot.

Telling me that ML has trans communities is akin to the racist that says “But I have a friend that’s black!”

In my opininion the developer got upset that his shitty opinions were going to cost them donations and tried to half-ass walk it back.

I fear you and I will never see eye to eye on this, and that’s ok. I won’t judge you for your opinion and I thank you for being level headed during this discussion. But sadly I remain unconvinced that the developer actually learned anything from this experience other than being more careful next time to not say things that suck.

🩷

Oh dang. I hope she reconsiders. If not I will miss her dearly.

Good luck honey if you see this. You are a great person and I hope you are ok.

Let’s not dismiss this bigotry as being simply uninformed. Someone that is making such a grand statement about us and using TERF language would likely disagree with you about how informed they are.

But I do agree with you about the statement being a shitty analysis.

I’m not convinced that what I said about that checkbox was misinformation. I remember the checkbox situation, I remember thinking it was weird, and I read enough posts from various instances at the time from multiple people that lead me to believe that it wasn’t all that great and there was ambiguity about Rimu’s motives for including it. Furthermore, his response about it wasn’t convincing. So I’m not going to acquise and change my original post. Even in this thread there’s no actual agreement on the subject. I understand you are trying to help, but what I said wasn’t specifically a lie. Thanks for your comment.

Having correct hormones is such a wonderful thing. I’m also very glad this is possible.

Hooray for hormone therapy woooooo

There’s a screen shot of what Nutomic said in the post I linked.

Well if I’m wrong about how that list worked then I apologize but Rimu also supposedly took code from the fork and failed to attribute it until he was called out about that too. It wasn’t only the blocking thing that upset me, it was also the code misappropriation and the childish ban spree.

Well, the lemmy devs are transphobic and the piefed dev Rimu is a bit of a jerk with additional accusations of a censorship list after a huge blowup surrounding a front-end called tesseract. There’s other posts about it there during that same time frame.

It’s a big reason I switched to quokka.au as it uses a fork of piefed called PyLova which I find to be stable and good and the developer is way nicer.

Edit: to be more clear, Tesseract was developed by someone else and that person snuck a secret censorship list into their project. While Rimu’s filter was only slightly less problematic, it had a checkbox at least, it was very unclear what it actually did and caused a huge (well deserved) fuss.

I’m glad there is a place that you can share this and I hope you found some peace in doing so. I hear a lot of conflict in your words. It’s not uncommon for people that aren’t cis to go through these types of things. I hope you can find some relief when you are ready.

Aww I hope tomorrow brings you some peace

Thank you, I needed this tonight.

Sweet dreams

I hope you had a good sleepies.

Thank you for tucking us all in at night. I hope your week of work goes by nice and smooth!

You’re doing this exactly how you need to, and you are a good person. If they can’t commit to treating you properly by the next time you talk to them, I think you at least gave it a shot. I’m proud of you, sweetie.

💜

Edit: I agree with giving them more info if there’s a chance they’ll be open to it.

Awesome!! I’m very proud of you!

Baby steps are sometimes the most meaningful. You can do it!

Nini

Rawr!!!

Woohoo!!! Let’s gooooooo

I’m so glad to hear you have shelter for now.

It makes me very happy that people came together and helped.

I hope you are able to find a better situation soon.