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Cake day: June 23rd, 2025
  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.workstoWorld News@lemmy.world•'Every word has come back to haunt me': China cracks down on women who write gay eroticaEnglish
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    12 hours ago

    Chinese child care is the adults going to work and the older generation (the grandparents) take care of the child.

    Or sometimes my mother brought me to her workplace and I just sat there playing a video game on the portable dvd player thing with the games loaded on a dvd (or a cd, idk the difference) and with controllers attached to it. (She worked at an electronics store as a salesperson).

    My parents were in an arranged marriage (the consensual type, I think, but there was high pressures to enter into a marriage), and they argue a lot.

    When we first immigrated to the US, my maternal grandparents weren’t part of the “immediate” family, so they weren’t allowed on the immigration visa, my paternal side of the family (who are already in the US) didn’t like the responsibility of taking care of us (unlike my maternal side of the family), so my older brother who was around age 13-15 at the time when we first arrived, had to pick me up from school, and he resented having this responsibility, my brother didn’t really like me, we were frienemies (now, present day, actual enemies).

    But eventually, like around 6th grade I just walked home by myself. Most of the time, the house was empty (other than my brother). I barely talked with my parents, never had real emotional connections with them.

    Childcare in China isn’t that different from the US. (Well… in the US, kids get like a small child credit in their parent’s tax returns, and some food stamps, but that’s about it) The lower class is really very similar regardless of country. We the lower class people have more in common with each other than we do with the rich that runs our respective countries.

    (If you are confused at the “Older Brother” part, my mother “illegally” gave birth to me. Then they sterilized her to make sure she can’t violate the one child policy again. I was literally not even supposed to be born.)

  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.workstoWorld News@lemmy.world•'Every word has come back to haunt me': China cracks down on women who write gay eroticaEnglish
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    16 hours ago

    Yea… porn in illegal in China, erotic stories is just “word-porn” basically, this is nothing new.

    This is what conservatism does. Same in China, same in the Deep South of the US (the only reason why porn is still legal-ish in the south is because of the first amendment, but the constitution is being eroded so that might not last long)

    Conservatism is a disease that many countries still have. Take a look at this map:

    Porn being legal is mostly only a thing in the “western world”.

    Even if China has a liberal democracy like in the west, people would still elect conservatives. See democratic countries like: India, South Korea, Ukraine, Phillippines, Malaysia, they all made porn illegal despite being democratic.

    I’m cisgender and probably straight (or asexual not sure tbh), but if I was trans or gay, my parents would’ve disowned me for being “mentally ill” and gave me zero inheritance. I mean, even currently with depression, my parents are already thinking about leaving me out of the will for being a “useless eater”, imagine if I was LGBT. For context, parents are from Mainland, PRC, currently we’re in the US, they are conservstives that just thinks everyone who’s is depressed is either “faking it” or crazy psychopaths and/or “useless eaters”. I hate my life.

  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What should be done with the unemployable people?
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    17 hours ago

    Three Words:

    Universal Basic Income.

    Why: If this generation builds a machine that forever generate resources, then their decendant (meaning, all humans from this point forward) should deserve to have the results of the machine that their ancestors have built using their hard work.

    Maybe if the machine break, people then take turns to fix the machines, but then everyone should just enjoy existence.

    People under Capitalism dread automation.

    People under (Democratic) Socialism will embrace automation.

  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Share your wisdom (?). Have lots of knowledge but "my bones" crave and cry out for true wisdom
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    19 hours ago

    The “system” in place is not as elegant as it seems. Some things are actually very done very informally or “ghetto”.

    Courts are just essentially like when kids have to meet in a “dean’s office”, but for adults; it doesn’t have the same feel, the same “elegance” as depicted on TV. Judges aren’t some legal god that is untouchable, they’re just humans. In several occasions, I had to accompany my mother for a civil hearing about some bussiness (small-bussiness) lawsuit I can’t talk about. We met the judge in the elevator and just awkwardly said hi. Also one time we met another judge right outside the courthouse and my mother was trying to discuss the court case, but then the judge suddenly realize it was a case he rulled on, so he stopped discussing it because that’s not really supposed to be discussed by a judge outside of court. I never seen them have any personal security. As a kid, I always thought they would have like at least a squad of special bodyguards assigned to protect them, but these experiences shattered that belief. This is a large city in the USA, btw. There’s nothing special about judges, they are just humans.

    Same thing with cops, they aren’t the those hard working investigators as depicted on TV shows, they mostly just are lazy (and some corrupt too) and won’t actually help you with anything. Maybe write a report if its serious like robbery, but they won’t actually do any investigations. Maybe if you or a close relative knows the chief of police or sheriff or something like that, but otherwise they don’t do shit.

    The “system” is just a bunch of humans that created a made-up concept of governance. There is no magical machine ruling over us, we are part of that machine, whether its democratic or autocratic, its us that allows the machine to run.

    The judge is a human, the cops are humans. They could at anytime lose loyalty to the state. The state isn’t that special, its just a made up concept that we all have in our minds.