Very relatable. Velatable.

I’m adhd and polyamorous and think I’m sorta wired to play a part in a community, giving my loved ones anything they need, willingly and very easily. It doesn’t vibe with modern life. I’m liable to be taken advantage of, end up being lonely and have trouble finding satisfaction in taking care of my own needs and wants.

That’s cool. Dreams like that always gave me gender euphoria and were my only way of experiencing that. Lucid dreams where I was myself, a girl, that was really a highlight. I’d be so dejected when I woke up and would try really hard to get the dream back.

(I was never a “guy” otherwise in dreams; they were more abstract or I didn’t really even have a body).

Thought for a moment that V was short for vajaj. Bottom surgery is one hell of a contraceptive.

Is he okay? He looks so frail

“No, I am not menstruating.” “No, I have never been pregnant.” I tell them I’m a trans woman. “No, they did not implant a uterus in me.” “Yes, I’m sure. 😅”

I’ve also made a mental note to not pee before doctor’s visits, in case they want me to pee for them.

Going to the doctor hits different now.

Look, there is currently a campaign of hatred towards trans and intersex people from politicians in many places, especially in the US and the UK. They are making it so you can’t update your gender marker. They require it to match your birth certificate, and make it impossible to update your birth certificate too. So it will say whatever was recorded back then. Which does not at all help when you’re talking about a missing person. Nobody who sees me would think I was a man, yet that is what my papers used to say.

So since it does not get updated, it’s just as useless as legally recording your eye color, your hair color, your weight, or your height. It all changes over your life. Imagine we issued missing persons reports based on your weight recorded at birth. That is what is happening with the gender marker.

The gender marker is primarily used for legal discrimination, historically and today. Did you know that there is an airline in the Middle East that only lets men have laptop bags for their carry-on? If you’re a woman you may have a handbag, and they will not let you on if you have a laptop bag instead.

Discrimination is at least what it was introduced for initially in my country. It was to do with women not having the same rights around inheritance, so they needed to record it in order to treat women worse.

Sounds like they went in through the front door. Great security there. At least one of Denmark’s neighbours provides similar access to companies.

I’m in a similar boat. I’m in my 40s and transitioned recently and under unlikely circumstances met this girl. We’re perfect for each other and she manages to break down my defences and we’re together for an amazing six months. Then without warning she breaks up with me. Love of my life.

I tried dating someone else after her but she also broke up with me without warning.

This shit gets into your nervous system, you know? I expect this sort of thing now, I have one foot out the door.

Am I supposed to let go of people, forever? Become all delusional with love, have my heart broken, try again? I’m all-or-nothing, it’s the adhd.

I truly believe also that to meet someone like the first girl I mentioned I would need to leave my country. They don’t make them like that around here, our society would never produce that kind of person.

So I’ve given up on finding someone.

I got better, thank you

Literally me one time during driving lessons. Except my teacher had his own set of pedals. He said: ”never do that again”. He had given very unclear directions though, kinda his fault. 🫣 I wasn’t diagnosed until muuuch later.

Reminds me of my dad’s approach to parenting… better bury your emotions or he would overwhelm you with some bullshit like this.