Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that’s a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn’t feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that’s too small.
But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.
Anyone else relates to this.
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I’m 194cm (6’3") and my God do I wish I were a bit shorter. I would fit a lot more places, my back wouldn’t hurt doing the dishes from bending over, my feet wouldn’t hang off my bed and get cold all the time.
Average height guy here. Nope never shorter. Yep. Wanted to be taller.
I’m 5’10 or 70 inches tall. Being average makes you kinda invisible.
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Same height as me … I’m above average in Europe, but here in Vietnam most men only come up to my chin. I hugged one of the managers at work during Lunar New Year, and he ended up in my boobs, lol
I’m glad you enjoy the attention, there are times I’d like to be able to blend in TBH. Rocking heels and towering over most men is fantastic as an option, too >:-)
Short guy here, do you really?
Maybe? Obviously it might work out differently than I would like, so there is that.
Theres things about being short that arent imemdiately apparent, as I assume there is about being tall too. Unfortunately one of the things about being short is people are less likely to take you seriously. Man or woman, people tend to take taller people more seriously and associate them with confidence, authority, and competence a lot more than shorter people. There is also a wage gap between shorter and taller folks.
People treat short people like children so often it’s infuriating. God damn so much.
I would imagine short women get an extra dose of that infantalization too which has gotta suck.
Yes, I can attest it does suck!
I’m 1.85m tall and do feel like it’s a pretty good height. I was never aware that that counts as tall. But at the same time, i don’t think i ever got anything out of it, other than being able to reach a bit better in the supermarket or something. Having more leg room in a car and so on sounds neat.
It’s like white privilege (but obviously less profound): The benefits are in what doesn’t happen to you: No jokes about your height. No failed job interviews. No romantic difficulties because of your height. People don’t constantly interrupt, or act like you’re not even there. That kind of thing.
Yes, but that cuts both ways. The number of cars that really don’t fit at 185cm.
Short person: Securing employment and finding love are harder for me.
Tall person: I know exactly what you mean, sometimes my knees bump against my luxury sports car :(Your argument would be stronger if you left out “luxury sports”. Don’t get me started on flying coach.
I think we all, tall and small alike, can agree the airlines can get fucked with the way they jam inhuman numbers of seats into the airplane. You know they bribe Congress with free flights, to keep themselves carved out from disability -access laws and even basic decency for their passengers.
Fitting perfectly into an economy airliner seat is 10/10, the once every 3-4 years that I do that. But cars have their own issues when you’re below the average size: Bad sightlines, arm rests too high, seatbelts that saw at your throat for the whole trip rather than cross your shoulder, increased injury and mortality rates because of those seatbelts and airbags, which are optimized for taller drivers, controls out of reach, and such.
One size fits none. :(
Interesting. To be fair, every conversion is over for me if a potential date asks me about my height. My girlfriend now is pretty tall herself and she never cared and she told me before we even met that she doesn’t care. People do constantly interrupt me, which, i don’t really know where that is from. Short jokes is absolutely correct, but weirdly enough, i never saw myself as tall, untill someone pointed it out when i was like 29. I thought i was very avarage, maybe below average, because i was always the youngest in my class, therefore the shortest. I had a roomate who was really short and i did always made short jokes about him, not really in a mean way, but in hindsight, obviously not cool. But i never saw it as a downside, or that people are even bothered that they are shorter. His girlfriend was also almost as tall as me, so again, i just thought that she doesn’t care, no one should.
Boo hoo, car is too small!
Get use to it you circus freak. Us toddlers will just have to suffer through being made fun of for something we have no control over or worse, entirely ignored as if we don’t even exist.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ll be getting into my tiny ass car and driving it to the airport where I will comfortably fly in the cheapest coach seats possible. While I’m waiting in the airport, I’ll just buy some silk cashmere sweaters on ebay for $30.
I am 6 feet tall male and while I don’t feel particularly tall, I am still slightly taller than the statistical average American male, making it rather inconvenient. Clothes are too short, cars and power equipment is too short, bed is too short, tables, chairs and countertops are too short, ceilings are too short…
That second to last sentence, “I feel nothing like a man” stands out to me, as a transgender woman. Are you confident that you are a man? Just something to consider!
Height isn’t a problem for me (I am short) but many taller trans women have gender dysphoria regarding their height.
I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.
I can’t tell you anything about yourself, but I think you should investigate this feeling further. Personally, my dislike of being tall made more sense to me when I realized I’m not a man.
I wish I was an inch shorter. Im exactly 6ft and nobody believes me when I tell them because thats the “minimum man height” and people immediately assume I’m an overcompensating manlet despite standing there visibly being as tall as I say I am.
Might just start saying 5’11 instead. See how lying to peoples faces works out.
Be ready for a different type of comment pushing back then.
I’m a 5’9"ish woman and routinely have guys insist I’m taller than 6’ because they’re shorter than me and they’re 6’ so I must be like 6’2".
My brother does this to me.
I’m a 5’3 dude and sometimes I’ll have other short dudes be like “No you’re not! I’m 5’8 and you’re only like 2 inches shorter than me!”. As if being 5’8 is even sufficient for anyone who actually cares about our height.
Can confirm. Am same 5’9".
Like there are two measuring systems. One for guys that rounds up by a few inches. What also is funny is I am keeping my height better than my husband (yoga really rocks for that), but he is always taller than me in his mind, and probably always will be.
Don’t worry, over time your spine will compress and you’ll be 5’11” sooner than you can say “AARP”!
I am 5’11’’ in the sense that it’s true enough and I’ve never cared to double check.
Telling people you’re just under the line can be a good litmus test for what kind of person you’re dealing with. Even if I were 6+, I’d still say I was 5’11’'.
Just start using cm instead
I’m 6’7. Yes. I wish I was shorter.
I’d be able to have a normal childhood if i wasnt tall, instead of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else play in the play places that have a max height/size limit to enter.
I wouldnt have a terrifying phobia of ceiling fans.
I wouldnt be crippled for days after having to travel on an airplane.
I wouldnt have a bad back form having to bend over almost double just to do normal everyday things like cook and wash my hands.
If you fall below the average height, the world can relatively easily be adapted so you still fit into it with simple things like step stools and what have you.
But above average height? No, you don’t fit in, and theres no way at all to adapt to you. If you want a properly proportioned space, you’re gonna have to have $$$$ to build it for yourself, and listen to the constant complaints of friends and family who don’t want to visit because your house is to hard to use… completely utterly oblivious to the fact that all of their houses have been too hard to use your entire life and they’ve never given a single copper fuck about it.
I wouldnt have a terrifying phobia of ceiling fans.
I have broken five ceiling fans. two with my knuckles, two with my wrists, one with my head (it was in a trailer).
I live in a house with 10’ ceilings now, so not so much of a problem unless I go to the basement (watch your head).
I wouldnt be crippled for days after having to travel on an airplane.
I refuse to fly anywhere I could take a train instead for this exact reason.
I wouldnt have a bad back form having to bend over almost double just to do normal everyday things like cook and wash my hands.
don’t forget bathroom mirrors. I haven’t seen my reflection above my chin in a year because I just got tired of bending over to see myself. when I shave it’s just easier to use the selfie cam on my phone.
don’t forget bathroom mirrors. I haven’t seen my reflection above my chin in a year because I just got tired of bending over to see myself. when I shave it’s just easier to use the selfie cam on my phone.
Oh yeah, that reminds me of the chronic neckpain from being in a car and having to tilt your head so theres enough buffer space that you dont crush your spine against the roof on every bump
yeah i often think about being 75 cm short, like a gibbon ape
they’re so cute <3
6’4" here.
I wouldn’t say I’d want to be shorter, but I have definitely experienced a lot of what you describe.
In addition to being intimidating because I’m big, I also have real bad resting murder face. It used to bother me, but my wife is 5’1" (on a good day), and we’ve used it to her advantage.
She’s often dismissed or not taken seriously. When she is being disrespected or expects to be, she brings me along. Everyone always treats her with respect when I’m standing behind her.
I don’t like taking the train because my knees are pushed up against the seat in front of me. I’m also uncomfortable in most cars. I’m long in the torso, so even in an SUV I have to lean the seat way back to fit in. I currently drive a 2nd generation Honda Ridgeline, and it’s the first time in decades where I have space above my head.
Clothing is difficult. I buy my clothing online because I can never find more than one or two options that fit in a store. I used to go to a outlet store because they had such a massive inventory, I could actually find things in my size. My shirts tend to be like tents because I usually can’t find the extra tall sizes, so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.
There’s another downside to being tall that you didn’t mention. Years ago my son (taller than me) noticed that you don’t see many tall, elderly people. I had to break the news to him that, statistically speaking, being taller means dying earlier.
Bigger people have more cells in their body. More cells means more chances for cancer. More cancer means shorter life.
So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.
I’m a pretty average sized person but I’ve stared having bespoke clothing made for me. It’s frequently not as expensive as I initially thought it would be and there is a magic feeling to slipping into a pair of pants that just fits.
so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.
the problem with that in my experiences is that most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer. I’ve had times looking at shirts in the store where the there was like an inch of difference in length between large and 3x large, but the width difference was astronomical.
JCPenny seems to be dying out, but their online always seemed to have a good collection of tall and big clothes if you’re looking for stores.
So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.
Not soon enough
most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer
No doubt. I’ve got a bunch of 3XL shirts that are at least 10 inches wider than I need them to be to get 1-2 inches of extra length.
I think there’s also an assumption that if you’re tall it’s because your legs (and arms) are long, like a giraffe. I’m not built like that. I’m just big.
Yeah, makes finding clothes super hard.
and then you wear it forever when you do, and refuse to give it up, even when its falling apart, because you literally have never found another shirt that fits like it.
6’4 cis gay man here. God, what I wouldn’t give to be a foot shorter – for one, there are the practical concerns like low basement ceilings and economy cars (the world is built for people 6ft and under); but then there’s the fact that most gay men who are tops have the notion (expressly stated or heavily implied) that they want a short, skinny femboy bottom they can manhandle. Which is fine, if that’s your thing. And it’d be totally fine if I were a top – but I’m not. I want to be held and feel smol in someone’s arms, which I can’t really achieve. Being neither short, nor skinny, nor particularly inclined to go topping, it’s hell for dating. :D
the world is built for people 6ft and under
For people under 6ft and above 5’4" or so*
Well, yeah, it isn’t built for the seriously vertically challenged either, but everyone thinks being tall is soooo much better. It really isn’t – for every high shelf or tall counter that might piss someone short off, I can point to a basement I’ve had to stand in, a low counter I’ve had to hunch over, or a vehicle I’ve had to sit in that pissed me off just as much if not more so, especially because this usually caused me physical pain (bumping my head, crushing my legs, and so on) – whereas if you’re too short, I imagine you just sigh and go “damnit, I need a stepladder. Again.”
I need a stepladder to do pretty much anything in my home. Also, I get hit directly by close-range ass and pit sweat when in public/trains/escalators, so there’s that. I do think the air at least is better up there.
I want to be held and feel smol in someone’s arms, which I can’t really achieve.
I’m straight but I felt that man. I hope you find the one.
oh, I’ve found I don’t mesh well with others for a variety of reasons, I’ve since given up on dating. Thanks though. The height just ticks me off because there are lots of things you can change about yourself with genuine effort, if you were wanting to go about changing yourself (for your own sake or for others); but no amount of self-help or positive thinking, nothing is ever gonna make me any shorter.
Well, unless...
… no, nevermind.
Don’t give up man. I’ve met who I thought were the most irritating and unlovable people who are in a happy relationship. If they can find someone to love, so can you. I believe in you.
no, I spent probably 10+ years of my life trying and failing to retain anyone’s interest, and all I got for my effort was jerked around emotionally and used for entertainment by a handful of different people. I didn’t even manage to get laid for the trouble, I’m still holding my v-card. I’ve finally come to accept in the past year or two that not everyone gets to do everything they want, and just quitting is less painful. I’m not getting lead on and fucked with, I’m not getting my hopes up for stupid shit – I’m not happy about it, but I can sit and be unhappy just fine all on my own, I don’t need some asswipe playing games with my head to do so. Whatever an honest, actual relationship looks like or would be, it can’t possibly be worth the level of bullshit I’ve already endured to try and make one happen, let alone any further bullshit I’d be put through by continuing to entertain the idea. No thank you. I just thought I’d share the main reason I’ve resented my height for most of my adult life, though there are also more practical considerations as I’ve mentioned.
Tbh yeah, a bit. I’m 6’7’‘. I’d be totally fine with being a few inches shorter. Being so tall does have a lot of advantages but I have a hard time finding slim cut pants in my size, office chairs that work for me or cars with enough leg room. I even had to pay a lot of money for a bicycle. I think the sweet spot is probably somewhere around 6’4’'.
I’m 177cm (5’ 10). Thats exactly average height for men in my country. But I’m always feeling like the world is built for shorter people.
All work surfaces and countertops are way too low. I get a sore back working in the kitchen chopping veges or washing up in the sink because I am slightly bent over all the time.
I need an adjustable height desk at work because when I sit on the chair, my keyboard is too low and I need to hunch my shoulders to type. I need to adjust the desk up by 15cm just to ensure my forearms are horizontal.
When I’m sweeping with a broom or mopping, I need to hold it all the way up at the top the handle, and still need to crouch my back slightly to use it. I feel like they need to make the handles just 20cm longer for normal height people to use them while standing upright.
Every car I drive I need to adjust the seat all the way back otherwise I can’t get my legs in.
I couldn’t imagine how awful it would be like to be any taller than I am.
My personality is so shit that tallness is kind of my crutch for navigating social situations. What I wish is that I didn’t need it
Hey! Tall high five.
I like you detective. Have a nice day.
Thanks, Eyes :) you as well
