People have to come up with their own reasons to exist.
Friedrich Nietzsche believed that even in a meaningless life, one should strive to create their own purpose and goals. He famously stated, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how,” emphasizing the importance of finding personal meaning despite life’s inherent absurdity.
I recommend some parts of Nietzche, even though he is far from spotless as a person. Also know all the phillosophy in the world isn’t a substitute for proper help from a mental health councilor.
Girl, what?
- Love yourself, for fucks sake! You can’t honestly expect anyone else to do it if you don’t.
- It’s like you haven’t even heard of hedonistic pleasure I mean c’mon
If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love anybody else?
What’s love got to do, got to do with it?
I mean, who needs a heart when a heart can be broken? Ya feel me?
Never really understood that logic, tbh. Who needs a computer when a computer can be broken? Was Tina Turner all about unbreakable things?
Loved is an external condition. You can still love even if you think you aren’t loved. Can still do pretty much anything.
There’s sort of no point to anything anyway, why not just have a good time and be nice to people?
but what is love?
FREE LOVE IS TOO TAME FOR HIM!
baby don’t hurt me.
UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF LOVE!
Iiiiiiiiii love love love you, do you love me too?
My own enjoyment? Those who have claimed “love” have always taken away from that. So now I live for me.
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Being loved isn’t what should drive you. Your love for something or someone should be.
External validation is always nice, but you should be able to function without it. If you don’t, then you have a truly uphill battle in front of you if being loved is your end goal.
I think if you expect to be able to function without relationships which affirm who you are then you’re in for an uphill battle.
Humans need each other. For so many things including validation, though the word means different things to different people.
I think if you expect to be able to function without relationships which affirm who you are then you’re in for an uphill battle.
And yet, this is exactly what many of us are doing. It’s really not that bad.
Obviously it would be preferable to have mutually understanding/respectful relationships, but that’s not really how my life has turned out, so… just gotta keep on doing my thing, I guess.
Comes with a price.
Speaking generally, as I don’t know you, most isolated people have a desire, drive or yearning for connection.
Its a feature of the species, baring the rare exceptions that prove the rule.
validation and love are not the same things, but commonly mistaken especially in the attention economy where people are seeking validation above all else.
a lot of folks are so obsessed with external validation they are not capable of love anyway.
To prove them wrong.
What is love?
Baby don’t hurt me
Don’t hurt me
No more
You got a hot date or something?
when they say to love yourself they meant this. and not ego. you have to see yourself as worthy. it is you who has to see the worth and value of yourself to want to see the things and do the things.
you could also practice doing these things until the self gets pulled along and stops dragging your feet so its all like “holy shit we can do some stuff without permissions from other people via their love”
you have to find that in you.
Maybe the ambition should be to be loved?
I find that if you’re just a person who does good things even when no one is watching (and without telling people about it), people and animals are naturally drawn to you
Be the person who holds doors for everyone. Stop to help people until it becomes natural. Ask the cashier how their day is going. Go to the shelter and cheer up some animals
I resonate with this, but it does imply “pay it forward”-esque mechanics for longevity. I live by this, but there is a burnout that sets in when you do for so many but few do for you. I know it shouldn’t be an equal exchange, but there is only so much energy one can give to others, and it’s hard to multiply what little kindness you receive, sometimes. For me, the question is “how can I replenish that energy to continue to be the good person I want to be?”
also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.
Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions. This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to ‘help’.
listening can be love too.
This is true. It’s not really helping someone else if you don’t respect their boundaries
And some people will be super rude about it, and you just have to move on and put yourself out there again with the next person anyways
yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me. Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that ‘no’ that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.
I think your thought pattern “if only I had this or that I’d be so much different” is a dead end.
You won’t be much different. Thinking that you will be differenr is only going to cause you to procrastinate changing yourself into something you want to be.
