You’re just right. Most people are really weak and spineless, and on top of that a lot of people are just plain evil. We constantly make excuses for the people who cause the most harm through bigotry and we’re all pressured into punishing anyone who decides to take action against bigots into their own hands.

I say fuck it all and do what I want which is the opposite of that. No more coddling bigoted viewpoints.

I appreciate you listening. I do expect you to be able to be more accepting of other trans people and to be stronger in the face of bigotry.

I think you are able to overcome these feelings.

The thing I probably feel the most about being a trans person is that I feel like I’m constantly being proven right that people secretly hate us. That I should trust my gut instincts when I feel that energy and protect myself accordingly.

Every post lately on every platform has this air right now. Of “how can I fit in more and avoid being outcast” and the answer to that question is meet the needs of the status quo. And the status quo right now is and has been “try to remove trans people from society”.

I don’t think there are answers that work that aren’t “stop being afraid of being trans”

If I’m nice will you leave my comment up?

If you act bigoted towards trans people, because you’re trans and can’t come out due to internalized bigotry, then other trans people notice and it hurts. You’re being hurtful.

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Ew tell then to fuck off with that garbage

Everyone knows why and should call it out too. It’s bigotry towards trans people plain and simple. People expect us to be ok with being treated worse. That’s bullshit!

I have been following expectations less and less, it is really good for my quality of life and I recommend it personally.

I’m trans and homeless though so I never get hired and everyone treats me like a criminal by default anyway lol even though I’m clean and healthy they think I’m dirty and weird because of my recycled clothes and that I dress for the weather and comfort which doesn’t align with their gender expectations. I just treat it like a really good flea dip, everyone who treats me with kindness is more trustworthy.

I gave up on finding work in August when things didn’t work out with an amazing case manager. She could get anyone a job, the problem is the market was ignoring me outright. I got certified and tons of volunteer experience along the way but none of it was worth it or got me what I was looking for in life.

I’ve been learning how to live outside in the city and out in nature too. Learning to identify plants and forage. My partner is amazingly kind and supportive thankfully, although they often struggle too. It’s way more rewarding because these skills can carry me through the rest of my life and give me autonomy that no one can take away through outside pressure.

OP said “I tried to politely refuse”

I mean they’re not entirely wrong but I hate that they think it takes blame off themselves. Like they were forced to do Trumps bidding or sign military contracts under the most evil military of all time. Nobody forced them at all though, they were fucking bidding for the contracts and gave half assed reasoning for why they MUST cooperate. Absolute henchmen goofball behavior

That is rough, I’m sorry you went through that.

I wish I had more to help except this but what I can offer is if you live near a Planet Fitness, I’m homeless and trans and shower there in the womens most days. It’s been worth it to push past that air of being watched and shower in the womens where I am comfortable. And they have an explicitly trans friendly policy and have historically stuck up for trans women under scrutiny.