Well yeah, obviously, but why would someone give you the opportunity if being around you makes them uncomfortable and threatened? It works the other way around too; I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone if it seems like doing so might be making them feel afraid, in that case I’m just going to stay away from them.
Pressure quite often. Social pressure, psychological pressure. It can be a form of de-escelation out of fear what would happen if you rejected the person. Not entirely the same situation, but that’s the reason I can’t say no that easily to my alcoholic brother’s shenanigans. Imagine what women go through on a daily basis
Makes sense, but there has to be a better way as that sounds awful, like it does not sound like your alcoholic brother is genuinely building trust with you that way.
No he doesn’t. But it’s the easiest way for me to cope and deal with the situation. I don’t have the patience or the mental fortitude to try and convince or convert my family to abstain from alcohol. I’d rather avoid the situation and look out for my own well-being than be exposed to their drinking. I know it’s not the healthiest strategy, but it’s what’s been helping me the past few years
Well yeah, obviously, but why would someone give you the opportunity if being around you makes them uncomfortable and threatened? It works the other way around too; I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone if it seems like doing so might be making them feel afraid, in that case I’m just going to stay away from them.
Pressure quite often. Social pressure, psychological pressure. It can be a form of de-escelation out of fear what would happen if you rejected the person. Not entirely the same situation, but that’s the reason I can’t say no that easily to my alcoholic brother’s shenanigans. Imagine what women go through on a daily basis
Makes sense, but there has to be a better way as that sounds awful, like it does not sound like your alcoholic brother is genuinely building trust with you that way.
No he doesn’t. But it’s the easiest way for me to cope and deal with the situation. I don’t have the patience or the mental fortitude to try and convince or convert my family to abstain from alcohol. I’d rather avoid the situation and look out for my own well-being than be exposed to their drinking. I know it’s not the healthiest strategy, but it’s what’s been helping me the past few years
You people know this is a good thing, right? It’s our population problem regulating itself.