Pakistan police on Friday said a father shot dead his daughter after she refused to delete her account on popular video-sharing app TikTok.
In the Muslim-majority country, women can be subjected to violence by family members for not following strict rules on how to behave in public, including in online spaces.
“The girl’s father had asked her to delete her TikTok account. On refusal, he killed her,” a police spokesperson told AFP.
According to a police report shared with AFP, investigators said the father killed his 16-year-old daughter on Tuesday “for honor.” He was subsequently arrested.
Not sure if this is relevent, but I just wanna share my story.
My mom wants me dead because I have depression.
Not schizophrenia, not sociopathy/psychopathy, just being a little more sad than “normal”.
The reasoning? “Because you wouldn’t be able to enjoy life anyways, and your life is meaning less”, threatning to leave me out of the will because “you can just get welfare from the government”, despite me helping her with a lot of her stuff like bussiness licenses, filing taxes, translation (they are first-gen immigrants), etc. Like wtf is this concept of leaving someone with nothing when they have been so helpful throughout your life, just because “you have depression and you are no longer useful to society”. Then put obstacles in me getting antidepresdants because “you can’t be relying on meds for the rest of your life, just go outside” bitch wtf? Go outside to the ICE agents swarming the streets?
(I’m Chinese-American)
I mean at lesst I’m not dead yet, so I probably don’t deserve to complain too much, some people have it worse than me, I mean this person in the article literally got murdered. Tbh there were moments when I was a teen that I thought my mom was gonna stab me when I sleep. The fact I’m even alive is a miracle.
This toxic culture is why I never want to return to PRC, not to mention, the CCP problem.
But… now… the USA is also on fire becauses… I mean… you know… current events…
Life is going great! 🫠
Can’t complain! (literally can’t complain else you get arrested)
Nazis. Those Nazis that want to hurt you, have NO value whatsoever.
My goodness! This is a lot for you to have to go through any day of the week, let alone also with depression. You’re doing great that you can talk about it, and I hope you have a community and/or friendship group to fill in the void she has created.
Leaving (or even threatening to leave) you out of the will is super messed up, I hope you have siblings/family that would stand up for you, even if only after the fact.
She may have her own mental issues or even past trauma that she’s projecting onto her relationship with you and your depression. I dont say that to excuse or justify her, just to acknowledge that you aren’t who she thinks you are, your depression isn’t what she thinks it is, and your journey is within your control (relatively speaking), not hers.
Regarding the united states: we can’t really control it. However, we can control our own ‘back yards’. Find one thing, no matter how small, that you dont like and try to fix that in your life or your community. Something obtainable. (Eg, dont like single use plastics bc planet, dont want to pay for reusable bags bc oligarchs…then make reusable bags 🎉 - instructions Its ok to start small. 1000 people doing little things as a start is way better than a nobody doing anything because it ‘WoNt MaKe A dIfFeReNcE’
That’s horrible, I don’t really know what to say, except best wishes to you.
I always thought Chinese were a more pragmatic people than most, but this is not pragmatic of your parents, this is cynical and evil.
Chinese culture is like you pretend to be very nice to other people, but the abuse is within the family.
Like the 红包 (red packets) for Lunar New Year is so… wild.
Like so you give your friend’s kids $50 and their parents give your kids $50 then pretend like this is an actual gift, but then when they go home, the parents are like: “给我帮你保管” (Let me help you safeguard it)
Like… what is the point of the red packets then? Money gets shuffled but it just end up in the same people’s hands.
I mean at least that’s how my parents did it, I think my aunt’s more Americanized family actually let their kids buy stuff?
I went to my cousin’s house once (not willingly btw) and their family arrived in the US earlier than mine, so they cousins were born on US soil (as opposed to me who is first-gen immigrant), their father (my uncle) was from Hong Kong, so basically very western-minded.
They had an entire game system (Nintendo Wii something) in their house, I never had a game system lol, I was so jealous. Tbf they are slightly richer (like “middle class” rich), but even later on when my parents got more disposable income (like teenage years), I never got any games, or toys.
Like the vibes I was getting was that their household was still very strict, but not they actually get to have fun sometimes.
I think its this “filial piety” thing that is fucking toxic as hell.
I guess I see this with politics as well. I mean on the surface you never see Xi acting like the buffoons in the US-Republican party (I mean y’all know those crazy trump tweets and thinnly veiled racism, that sort of crazy stuff). The CCP might not outright do crazy shit like that, they do put up this act that make them look good, but deep down, they are both the same. In this analogy, the country is like the family, the civillians are like the children, children gets yelled at or even beaten (police harassing dissidents), but then the parents (the CCP) talks to everyone else (other countries) like everything is fine.
Family, Country, these patterns repeat.
I mean on the other hand, the US is like that conservative man in the suburb that open-carries a gun everywhere (the 18 aircraft carriers and hundreds of military bases world wide) and sees everyone as a threat (“inverventions” in other countries)
Seems like culture and politics are so intertwined.
(I feel like I’m rambling… idk if this wall of text even makes sense)