• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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        Well yeah, straight conservative men also wind up with all the shame and fear of queerness that manifests as a preoccupation with dicks.

        Well that and lots of guys who are basically Mac in early seasons of always sunny

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        Now, I’m not too caught up on the rhetoric, so maybe I’m incorrect here, but I never really saw “Femboy” as a transgender thing, and more of a kink thing like someone who identifies as male dressing up as a woman, or wanting to be talked to like a woman, while still being male, and under that parameter, it doesn’t shock me that its the more popular search, at least it seems like it is from the graphs.

        That said, I am surprised that on the list of metro areas, Minneapolis and Sioux Falls are so closely matched.

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          as a transfem (nonbinary not girl tho) i hate how porn calls trans women “femboys” despite femboys being a completely different thing

          when used to refer to trans women, femboy is a slur

          an actual “femboy” is (very literally) a “feminine boy”; a male-identifying and at-least-somewhat-feminine-presenting person, often adhering to the typical style of femboy culture (thigh high socks, crop top, skirt or short shorts, fluffy hair that doesnt go past the chin), or often other queer styles

          being a femboy is one of the ways a cishet person can be queer (other notable ways are being aromantic or intersex)

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              yeah thats another slur that porn likes to call us

              trans porn intended for cis people is trash, while trans porn intended for queer people is really good; especially with how (in my opinion) queer culture has perfected bdsm

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            Thank you, glad I’m not crazy, seems the study should just broaden the label its using from trans porn to something else.

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      Conservative men gay/grinder outage is a homophobic and non factual rumor. You should stop the spread.

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              Yeah no shit. Any time there’s a convention there are more people in a place. And the CEO isn’t stupid, they know how to get free marketing from media hype.

              Way to completely pivot away from your BS claim about outage data.

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                Spike in usage = the hypocritical nazis are on grindr while also supporting the filth who are actively attacking gay people.

                That is the point I was making, I conceded that down detector can be manipulated but it’s really a moot point when grindr itself shows a spike in usage.

                No need to be a prick about it unless that’s just who you are as a person.

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          That’s user reported outage data. Not official outage data. People remembering the cliche may cause the outage report to happen.

          Those metrics are flimsy at best. And grinder itself reported no outages while common search sites did.

          So I call homophobia on that.

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          Viewing the homophobes as a bunch of closeted fags who just need to choke on some cock is homophobic.

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            Jesus fuck. Calling out hypocritical hate and laughing at the absurdity is not the same as whatever the fuck you just said there. You have some deep seated issues, dude. Maybe projecting some shame or trauma? Seek help.

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            Acknowledging that many zealots are projecting insecurities in a performative display of gender expression is essential to understanding how toxic masculinity and patriarchy keep men (and everyone else too) from living authentic, fulfilling lives.

            There is absolutely a correlation between conventions and increases in dating apps in an area. I doubt that conservative groups, no matter how closeted, can put up the numbers that the out and proud can put on the board, but there is undeniably a bump in traffc.

            I think this “homophobes crash grinder” bit is more of an exaggeration than an urban legend though.

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        Are you sure you replied to the correct comment?

        There was no mention of Grindr or outages.